Day 10 – To Kuehne

Frankfurt, Germany

The streets feel strangely quiet as I head out at 6:30 to fetch breakfast and coffee. What the heck? Eifler Bakery is dark without a sign of life. Oh well, the bakery across the street is open.

Frankfurt, Germany

This place is a self-service spot that I’ve avoided as I couldn’t be sure that I wouldn’t violate COVID mitigation rules I may not be aware of. Good thing others are in here so I can take cues from them. With an egg and bacon sandwich and medium coffee, I returned to this peculiarly quiet neighborhood. At this time of day, Caroline is still awake but will soon be asleep. I used the opportunity to not only let her know I was awake and still missing her but also asked if she knew if there was a holiday here in the first week of June on a Thursday. It is the Feast of Corpus Christi in English, but in German, it is Fronleichnam (which, to naughty school children, translates to Happy Cadaver Day). While a day of recognition for Catholics, the Protestants and Lutherans simply enjoy the extra day off.

My day is going to unfold slowly without much to share about Frankfurt or the surrounding area as I’m spending some time with Stephanie here at Jutta’s til 10:15 when I will leave to meet an old friend, but until then, we are sorting things and determining what remains and what joins the dustbin.

Torsten "To" Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

It’s a short 13-minute walk from Saalburgstraße 46 to Friedberger Landstraße 100, where Torsten (To) Kuehne and I are meeting at Lucille Kaffeehaus. By the way, it’s 5 minutes by scooter as I just noticed that as a travel option for where I’m going. Seeing To for the first time in only a couple of years but so much has changed since then. Artists have had to bear the brunt of the economic pain brought on by a pandemic as they usually don’t have anything to fall back on, but here’s To; he looks good, and he’s surviving.

After the briefest of updates of news from the past couple of years and my explaining to To why I’m in Frankfurt, we jumped right into the lost opportunities that we had a glimpse of after the pandemic started. What I’m referring to is when people were singing in appreciation to health care workers, playing music on balconies, and helping each other get through a bizarre moment in human history that was seemingly affecting everyone simultaneously on our Earth. But we blew it; we turned to anger and frustration that our perfect lives were inconvenienced and that somehow the most valuable minutes of our lives were being stolen instead of taking advantage of the opportunity to reevaluate and reinvent some small part of ourselves.

Torsten "To" Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

And now we want everything to return to normal, and maybe that’s just where we are going, which in both our views is unfortunate as we are driving society without a compass of ethics and morality. As human experience has shrunk into milliseconds and tiny screens instead of big ideas, grand vistas, and the embrace of love, we are more hedonistic and frightened of not being able to work out if we have a future.

Torsten "To" Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

A friend of To’s was walking his bike up to the cafe. His name is Stefan and I found him as interesting as so many of the other creative people I’ve met over my years living here and the intervening years when we visit. Stefan works in theater, well he did before the pandemic, and now his future is uncertain and is doubly so due to a generation that has lost touch with historical and intellectual matters. Stefan doesn’t create theater for Pokemon or TikTok, and he has no desire to establish himself as an influencer; he tells stories.

Stories, isn’t that all any artist shares? Within every object, image, and human-created sound is a story distilled from the imagination and experience of the person who has offered to others. The artist will only rarely find a glimpse of what others have tried to take from something as complex as the reorganization of stimuli wrapped in an obtuse package that may or may not resonate with others. Take the image above, To shared with me the work of a photographer, Barbara Klemm, for whom he has tremendous respect. She shot an image of Andy Warhol standing in front of a painting by J. H. Wilhelm Tischbein of Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, a famous author from Frankfurt. To had the idea to recreate it and reached out to Ms. Klemm, who agreed to shoot the image with To in front of the painting to recreate her famous image. He then reached out to the Städel Museum, who, while they thought it was a great idea, had it loaned to another museum for another two years. So, To recreated the image of himself as Goethe, then he posed as Warhol and set up his camera so he could take the photo himself. Today, I’m holding the postcard inspired by the Tischbein image in front of the image of To in front of To taken by To. And that’s the story of that.

Torsten "To" Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

Self-portrait of the artist To – Torsten Kuehne.

Torsten "To" Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

On my way out of To’s place, I handed him my camera and asked that he snap off a few shots for me so my camera would be given the experience of seeing differently. I suppose it is wrong of me to have automatically put my copyright statement on them as I exported the batch of today’s photos but appropriation and outright theft are the acknowledgment that an artist holds such influence that others want to steal from him. Had only I thought about nabbing his circa 1970s banana seat bicycle in the basement, I could be seeing Frankfurt from a whole new perspective.

Torsten "To" Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

I know what comes at me after Caroline sees this image of To, “See John, To looks great in a “wife-beater” doesn’t he?” Ouch, writing that hurt my fingers that want to be politically correct, as I suppose even the idea of “wife-beater” is probably a dark subject these days. Let me just state here and now that I do not condone beating one’s wife, even if it happens while wearing the appropriate shirt. To make up for this transgression, I’ll share a secret with you, To’s most recent tattoo addition is an image of Wile E. Coyote holding a Help Me sign near his buttcrack, ask me how I know.

Torsten "To" Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

The Polaroid of To is the To I met about 30 years ago. I give this man a lot of credit for being an authentic and idealistic human being. His range of experience is wide and maybe extreme to others who live in tiny boxes and are afraid to encounter the full spectrum of life, but it’s just To looking at the details that are always before us that he has an eye for. I can’t say I’ve known To to be foolish, and while luck hasn’t always been smiling upon him, he’s been calculating enough to avoid the worst life has to offer. Today, he’s spending some of his daylight hours coaching students to be confident and creative. Some would call this being a teacher but To doesn’t attempt to alienate those he has charge over but asks them to offer something real from inside themselves. For that effort, he read me a letter some of his students recently wrote him that was deeply heartfelt, along with a bottle of whiskey they gifted him that sits near the front door we entered through.

Turkish Food in Frankfurt, Germany

Earlier, when Stefan ran into To, and I was introduced to him, it turned out that we both lived on Gluckstrasse, he in address 13, Caroline and I in #8. Why To shared that I was eating grüne Sosse almost every day, I don’t know but he was aghast. Not seriously or anything, but he found it hard to imagine someone liking it so much. So, I asked him to recommend a place he seriously enjoyed, and he told me of Sümela Turkish Restaurant. I got out of To’s at 3:00 p.m. and walked over to this place as it wasn’t far from where we were, but it doesn’t open until 4:00. I sat there and wrote until they opened and then feasted on this mixed grill plate. Feasting already implies eating an exquisite meal, and so I hope it can go without saying just how much I enjoyed it.

Frankfurt, Germany

Yesterday, I mentioned this ad campaign asking Frankfurters (not the hot dog ones) when they wanted to return to normal activities such as travel and dancing. This is the other poster I was referring to, with DJ Ata doing his part in motivating people to help end the pandemic in Germany. I wish I knew how to get hold of him to say hi.

Frankfurt, Germany

Thunder is heard in the distance, but for a few more minutes, I believe I had the last remaining blue sky shining over my head; that’s what optimism brings you.

Frankfurt, Germany

Here in the rain, after being in Germany for ten days and witnessing the rapid transitions regarding the pandemic, the restrictions still in effect bite harder in the rain. I’ve been rapidly transitioning into remembering my existence here, and while the rain was an inconvenience last week, I now remember how when the rain came, it didn’t matter as every bar, cafe, and restaurant was hopping with steamy, loud, and exuberant revelers who moved the party indoors. Jackets and umbrellas were stacked thick near the entrance, and the sound of glasses filled the room with the many voices speaking nearly as many languages. With the heavy thunderstorm this late day, nobody gets to squeeze into an already crowded room because though the population who have had a recent COVID test or has been vaccinated with both shots with at least two weeks since their last one can get a table outside, we are not allowed to sit together indoors yet. So, business must come to an absolute standstill. The streets are as empty as they are at 5:00 in the morning, and the voices going by my windows fall silent.

Afternoon Visit

Brinn Aaron at Solana Beach, California

Spontaneity is often a rare thing and with the idea that Brinn would visit me while in San Diego, I didn’t think he’d really show up. We “joked” about him driving out the day before but he said it would be better to leave in the morning. Sure enough, he wrote to me earlier today that he’d be in around 12:30 and it was only shortly after that when he walked into Starbucks here next to the freeway in Solana Beach.

We took off for lunch down to Gen Korean BBQ and got stuffed on $25 a person all-you-can-eat cook-at-your-own table Korean food. We leaned heavily on the pork side of the menu before agreeing on a nice long walk to help settle the stuffing. So back up the coast to Solana Beach, we drove to walk the dog before walking ourselves. After a mile-long walk with Drake, we headed over to the beach down the road from where I’m staying and walked another three miles.

You might guess that after this we made our way back over to the coffee shop to continue the conversation. Stoicism has been on Brinn’s mind lately as he brought up Marcus Aurelius at our last meeting in Phoenix and again today the subject comes up. For those of you who don’t know, stoicism is the endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint. At only 32 years of age Brinn has known his share of hardship, pain, and suffering, often with some of it being self-inflicted, after being brought up to endure it. In this sense, we might be considered opposites as I have worked towards stopping the internal self-immolation as I’ve tried to find a balance of enduring the pain shared by a society bent on exploring their greatest stupidities and my need to exit life as gracefully and happy as possible.

While sitting in the shade a security guard making his rounds came by and we said hello. Turns out he’s a former Marine and at that moment it was strange to think that the three of us are all veterans of the American Military. While Brinn is nearly constantly aware of his status in part because he works for the Veterans Administration in Phoenix, I mostly have forgotten that part of my life as I wanted to actively distance myself from the radical conditioning that is undergone when one becomes a soldier. Jonathan the security guard was an affable guy who spent about 45 minutes chatting with us. He only left active duty about 2 years ago after 11 years of service and it is still obvious what his background was.

Korean Ice Cream from Somi Somi in San Diego

Wow, is it dinner time already? No, we did not start with dessert, we dropped in on some random Chinese noodle shop and split a few dishes. Around the corner, we visited Somi Somi where a few days before I made my first visit, but opted for the relatively boring vanilla flavor with custard. Tonight I went with the Ube and Taro with Fruity Pebbles and didn’t regret it. Yes I did regret it, I have diabetes and this was kind of stupid but I did walk nearly 17,000 steps today so hopefully, I counteracted the ugly effect of sugar on my body chemistry.

By 10:00 p.m. I brought Brinn back to his car and his short adventure to San Diego came to an end as he pointed the car eastward and off he drove into the night. Later I learned he got home safely at 3:30 in the morning but I guess even if it had been a slog and he was tired along the way, his stoicism wouldn’t have allowed him to lament the struggle to stay awake under the starry sky out in the middle of nowhere.

Los Angeles

Caroline Wise at Cafe Gunul 2 in Los Angeles, California

It’s time to renew Caroline’s German passport and the only place to do that nearby is over in Los Angeles at the German Consulate. With an appointment for early Monday morning and not a lot found to entertain us this weekend we were in no rush to make the drive to California. So on Saturday morning we woke without the assistance of the alarm, straightened up our place so we’d return to a relatively clean apartment, and headed out for breakfast and the nearly six-hour drive west.

Upon arrival in Los Angeles, trying to deal with the aggressive driving, we were hungry and in need of a break. We knew well beforehand that we’d be stopping in at Cafe Gunul 2 for some army stew. After our visit here almost exactly a year ago when we first indulged on this Korean fusion comfort food we said we’d return for the stew that takes upwards of 30 minutes to prepare. Turns out that at 2:00 in the afternoon it only takes minutes for your gallon pot of tofu, sausage, spam, pork belly, ramen noodles, squash, mushrooms, kimchi, and cheese to be brought to your table while it is still nearly boiling. It was well worth the visit and agree that we wouldn’t mind sharing it again.

John Wise in reflection

This being summer finding a hotel at the last minute last week wasn’t easy plus I wanted us to be near the Consulate so we’d not have to deal with trying to cross even a small corner of this city on a Monday morning. Our couple of nights would be taken near the corners of Western and Wilshire Boulevards which was only about 3.5 miles east of Monday’s appointment. With our inertia having come to a complete stop following our trough of army stew, the last thing we wanted to do was venture out, but it was still so early in the afternoon it was silly to consider collapsing and so off to coffee we went. The photo is a screenshot of some synth related stuff that has to do with “Grainz” that I received while hanging out at Starbucks.

Korean Shopping Center in Los Angeles, California

For years we’ve been using smartphones but still, I’m enchanted by talking to my phone asking it for the nearest something or other, and its ability to zero in on making suggestions that are close to my current location. Today I was inquiring about a theater and a small place only five minutes away was at the top of the list. Turns out that it was a Korean theater showing The Lion King, not exactly what I had in mind. The film we ended up watching wasn’t something I had in mind either but the total lack of awareness about it was intriguing. The movie was called, “The King’s Letters” and though it was in Korean it was subtitled, sort of. I say that because the translation was sketchy at points. The story followed a thread of how the written Korean language might have been created.

Korean fast food in Los Angeles, California

Army stew, coffee, a film we’d never be able to watch in Phoenix, and then some shopping and snacking (pictured: egg, shrimp, and cheese on toast) in an Asian-centric outdoor mall made for a perfect Saturday in Los Angeles. Then there was also that dessert of cream puffs at Beard Papa’s. I have to admit that we were uncertain about leaving Arizona as in the days before our departure we couldn’t find anything to do over in Southern California but spontaneity and our interest in most all things (not including professional sports) let us be fully entertained with our choices.

Rothem and Liam in Los Angeles, California

Come Sunday we needed to wake early as the decision to avoid L.A. traffic had been made so we’d keep our car in the garage and walk where we wanted to go. Before leaving Phoenix the one thing that had been fixed on was meeting the Bravermans for breakfast. They suggested a place called Republique on La Brea which worked out fine for us as it was only 2.5 miles from our hotel. Liam, their 4-month old new baby boy was the toast of breakfast. While we talked about the general tensions of living in Los Angeles we mostly focused on Itay and Rotem’s new roles as parents and how many people have offered bad or unwanted advice on how to be a parent.

To the consternation of the bussers in uber-trendy hipster Republique, who by 10:00 had a line of probably 50 people down the sidewalk, we were there to camp out and catch up with our friends. After nearly 3 hours at our table, we couldn’t take the subtle harassment anymore and finally relinquished our grip and left.

Los Angeles, California

That was supposed to be it for visiting these friends who became a family in the intervening months since we last met, but after Caroline and I continued our walk north up La Brea stopping for coffee on the corner with Santa Monica Blvd., Itay reached out inviting us over should we be in the area this afternoon. Well, we were just a mile around the corner at this point. By 2:00 p.m. we were once again meeting with the Braverman family.

Liam Braverman in Los Angeles, California

Mother’s milk, computers, mixed drinks, strong coffee, social issues surrounding politics, and family dynamics took us in conversation up to the early evening when hunger got us moving towards the exit. Not having eaten since breakfast I took Itay up on his offer to give us a ride back towards our hotel where a host of Korean BBQs with all-you-can-eat menus were found all over our neighborhood. Stuffed we waddled back to our hotel with hopes of getting to sleep early for our 8:00 a.m. appointment down the street.

Believe it or not, on Monday morning we had breakfast at McDonald’s and then in the blink of an eye, we were in and out of the consulate and just as quickly on our way back to Arizona.

Katharina – A Day In Phoenix

Katharina Engelhardt and Brinn at Hodori Korean Restaurant in Mesa, Arizona

So how do you like that Korean food? Brinn called me earlier asking if I’d like to join him at our favorite Korean place in the Phoenix area called Hodori. Katharina said that she wouldn’t mind trying it, so Brinn met with us for the drive to Mesa for lunch. We figured out that the Bibim Bap with tofu might be the most accessible dish for Kat, hopefully, it was okay.

Katharina Engelhardt and Brinn Aaron at Hodori BBQ in Mesa, Arizona

Thanks to Brinn for introducing us to this viral moment where seemingly everyone used FaceApp to age themselves.

Katharina Engelhardt trying a Boba Tea in Mesa, Arizona

I tried convincing Brinn that our niece does NOT like caffeinated drinks and that even a sweetened one with mango and boba would likely be lost on Kat, but he insisted that trying new things was a good thing and bought her one. Two sips and she asked if anyone minded if she threw it away.

Doodle by Katharina Engelhardt in Mesa, Arizona

This here was Kat’s contribution to the wall of graffiti behind her.

Foothills Recreation Center in Glendale, Arizona

Later in the day, we headed over to the Foothills Recreation and Aquatics Center where the Desert Judo group meets on Mondays and Wednesdays.

Katharina Engelhardt at Desert Judo in Glendale, Arizona

Kat didn’t have many opportunities in New Zealand to attend judo practice and so when she found a dojo near Caroline and me she signed herself up to visit.

Note from Kat: They didn’t have a full judo gi for me so I was only wearing a jacket. I’ve never done judo in shorts before.

Katharina Engelhardt at Desert Judo in Glendale, Arizona

Turns out that after 10 years of practice Kat is only a belt away from becoming a black belt.

Katharina Engelhardt at Desert Judo in Glendale, Arizona

With an invitation to return Wednesday night the very gracious group led by Sensei Russ finished up shortly before 9:00 and the three of us went for dinner. I don’t think the Cheesecake Factory was a favorite of our niece, neither the meal nor the cheesecake, which is not too surprising as Caroline and I don’t think this place is all that exceptional either. We did learn that pineapple upside-down cheesecake is coming back which will likely draw Caroline and me back before it disappears from the menu again.

A Walk Along The Rhine

*** I’d like to take a moment to explain something regarding a conversation Caroline and I are having regarding these posts in Frankfurt. She feels that my socio-political-economic musings are interrupting the flow of the travel narrative and that maybe I should have carved out these diatribes into their own entries. The issue for me is that these intellectual situations were where I was in my head when we were on trains or sitting down for a coffee. The difference between this week in Frankfurt and the previous two weeks is that I was alone and had nothing to share about time spent with things or people that were familiar to me so it was all selfishly centered on whatever I wanted to rant or wax on about. Should you find these abrupt interludes jarring….well, too bad.

Frankfurt is the only city in Germany with a skyline dominated by highrises. It’s also the financial capital on the continent, and with London about to potentially exit the European Union via Brexit, Frankfurt only stands to win if England and the rest of the United Kingdom abandon the ship of integration. I won’t mince my words here; the utter stupidity of the old and undereducated that were exploited in order to kickstart the dismemberment of the EU is a kind of fuckery that only serves the xenophobic ambitions of powers afraid that their military superiority is going to be eclipsed by benevolent power that risks the hegemony of the West. If the United States, with the help of its long-term ally England, cracks the EU back into fractured powers, those entities will have to act as solo players and build alignments based on military commitments instead of America needing to find agreement from a bureaucratic EU that has to take into consideration social cohesion across the Union and find consensus on financial and military commitments.

If America believes there will be a clash of cultures and that a war on the scale that would be required to contain non-white players into a more historical subservient role that has been being played for the past 100 or so years comes to pass, it will be an extremely violent conflagration that will eclipse the level of destruction seen in all previous wars combined. In order to rationalize such a conflict, the United States will have to count the number of allies it has in recognizing the necessity of such action. By eliminating the EU, which would collectively be only a single ally, it would be able to align with governments moving to the right and maybe find 15 of the 27 current EU members to join its front. The appearance of having a dozen complicit aggressors instead of going it alone might nudge others on the fringe to back a coalition instead of risking isolation.

Frankfurt, Germany

As I move through Germany on the eve of European elections while the American Right agitates and implicitly backs anti-immigration right-wing policies of intolerance with hostility towards open borders, I can’t help but focus much of my attention on the future of these lands that have avoided war for over 70 years.

The very idea that the West might contain Asia and freeze immigration from Latin America, Africa, and the Middle East by creating conditions that are absolutely detrimental to being from one of those land areas is going to sound very appealing to an electorate afraid of the influx of people “stealing” their jobs. If I think longer about the conditions that a conflict could play out, I can see a situation where America works in complicity with China. Matter of fact, when considering how China is currently trying to contain its Muslim Uighur population, I have to wonder if this is practice for what we as a society will have to start accepting as containment moves to a global scale.

Frankfurt, Germany

The trains, they go everywhere. The longer-distance trains have wifi. Most have plugs to charge mobile devices. There are helpers if you need assistance finding your seat. There are areas for bikes. Toilets are frequently larger than airplane facilities. With solid tracks, there are no click-clack sounds. It’s about $10 to travel 40 miles, which is a fairly significant distance in a small country like Germany. If you are running late on longer-distance trains, it’s often possible to buy your ticket on board. Train stations in big cities are like malls but only with important stuff for travelers. The main station is often the center of town, and landing there will take you directly into the most important places you might want to visit.

Frankfurt, Germany

Trains, the economy, and the social fabric of our cultural constructs are all moving by in a blur, making them impossible to grab hold of and, consequently, to fully understand. The fragments I’m able to glean on my excursions are biased interpretations that flow through the filters of experience that have created my flavor of knowledge. My musings are like a train car that pulls into the station, loading up people, but in this case, impressions flood into my senses, which I carry forward like this speeding train going forward over the landscape. When it arrives at the next station, the view of the next location will come into view, and I will carry what I’ve collected and considered, applying those lessons to how I interpret the new impressions. The day my train comes to a permanent halt, I will have likely died, but until then, I should continue picking up new passengers, new thoughts, and new ideas.

Geisenheim, Germany

I know what you are thinking about now: “This doesn’t look like Geisenheim to me.” You are right; we are in Oestrich-Winkel, where we left the train about 6km before reaching our destination.

Geisenheim, Germany

We traded 15 minutes of a train ride for 90 minutes of walking in order to better see our environment and move slowly among the impressions that should linger in our memories instead of joining the blur. It’s not every day that Caroline and I stroll past villas with vineyards on gently rising slopes that stretch up hillsides away from the river that makes this region a German treasure for cultivating grapes in the making of wine.

Caroline Wise next to the Rhein River in Germany

That river is the Rhine. From Switzerland flowing north through Germany into the Netherlands, this 1,230km (760 miles) river is second to the Danube in length regarding Central Europe but is a distant third when compared to the Volga at 3,530km. This highly navigable and vital waterway has spawned many a city along its banks, with a fair share of castles dotting outposts overlooking the lush and fertile lands that try to contain it. Today, the river is running high, and in some places, we have to detour as the trail is well underwater.

Geisenheim, Germany

Our path is not a straight line as we zigzag from a flooded river path back towards a small town in the hopes of passing quaint storefronts or admiring a large vineyard that holds the promise of a wine that might become a classic.

Geisenheim, Germany

If you are going to walk by in the early morning, you might not always be able to dip into the places that hold appeal, and so it was as we passed Weingut Jacob Hamm here on the Hauptstrasse here in Oestrich-Winkel. Heck, they don’t even open until 18:00 today (6:00 p.m.), but their courtyard is pretty, and maybe one day we’ll wander back through for a 4-course dinner with wine pairing from their winery. Not that I’ll be sampling the wine, but that doesn’t mean that Caroline won’t be indulging.

Geisenheim, Germany

This is the Basilika St. Ägidius in Mittelheim of Rheingau. Wouldn’t you know it, the doors were locked this morning. Well, it’s been sitting here since the 12th century, so it’ll probably be waiting for us on a future visit where we better plan where our path takes us.

Geisenheim, Germany

Every beautiful little village across the European landscape talks to us that this would be the perfect place to make a part of our retirement. Take, for example, this town; I’ve found rental properties for short-term stays from about $550 per month, which would certainly fit within our budget if our savings aren’t wiped out by some medical catastrophe. We will continue to dream and hope that one day we’ll be chilling next to some river and walking the hillsides while holding hands, still in love after a lifetime of exploring happiness.

Caroline Wise and FeFe in Geisenheim, Germany

We’ve reached Geisenheim, where Caroline’s stepmother Vevie lives. Last year when we wanted to visit her she was over in Prague, so we missed her, this year we were able to spend half the day with her. Our visits with this shrinking family who are happy to see us are far too short, and so it will be today, too.

Caroline Wise and FeFe in Geisenheim, Germany

A short stop at Vevie’s home and a coffee later we were off to the Rhine for a leisurely riverside walk. Lunch will be had with Bingen in the background and the flooded river running swiftly past us here at the Bootshaus Restaurant. While Caroline and her stepmother enjoy a midday glass of wine, I’m here with the sparkling water and computer open to try and add something to the blog for the day.

Geisenheim, Germany

With Caroline and I together and the time spent with family, it’s rather difficult to find writing time, and she has even less time to give to editing my musings to ensure I don’t embarrass myself too much. The original plan, like yesterday’s, was that I’d make myself scarce while Caroline and Vevie met, and then I’d join them at a later time for lunch or a sweet. Instead, I find myself spending the afternoon with them. There’s a slight problem regarding my German language skills as the talk moves beyond the basics that deal with travel, and they explore details of daily life. This level of German is far beyond my ability to understand, and so being absent for at least part of the day would have let them converse without worrying about trying to include me, thus allowing the talk to be more spontaneous, but as things work out I’m ever-present, and they oblige me with the occasional translation so I’m not too far away from the conversation.

Geisenheim, Germany

The section of the river we’re sitting next to draws in quite a few couples who take up a spot next to the water and sit awhile. A dozen or more barges have trundled by but only one private craft. There were a couple of dozen people setting up all manner of tents, food carts, and even a stage for this weekend’s festivities. The big event is called Besser als Nix or Better Than Nothing. With food, drink, and live music next to the Rhine, I know where I’d love to be, but if I’m not mistaken, this type of popup party is likely happening in hundreds of locations across Germany and then another thousand other places throughout Europe.

Just before leaving Vevie and Geisenheim, we had quite the surprise: Hanns Engelhardt. Turns out he didn’t know we’d be visiting Vevie today, and so after taking care of business in nearby Wiesbaden, he thought he’d drop in on her, but she wasn’t at home, so he waited for her return. What a surprise it was to see him a day early, so now you know who we’ll be traveling to see tomorrow. Unfortunately, we had to excuse ourselves as we still had arrangements to tend to later in the day, and so off we went.

Caroline Wise in Rudesheim, Germany

Should you wonder if I miss this type of lifestyle, the answer is unabashed: of course I do! So why are we not living in Europe? This celebration with beautiful weather is just getting underway as Germany emerges from six months of gray, cold weather and short days. If we could live anywhere here on the continent from June 1st until September 15th with a two-week return from the middle of December until after the New Year’s festivities, then we’d certainly opt for that. Cost of living is another difficult part of remaining in Europe for an extended period of time, with gasoline costing roughly $7 to $9 a gallon, rents in bigger cities starting at $1500 a month for something that would be about half the size of what we get in Arizona is also a factor.

Rudesheim, Germany

Maybe one day we’ll figure things out, and in retirement, we can live along the Oregon coast from October through early May and then make our way to Europe for the summer. While this would be a luxury to us, we’d have to do this economically, and as long as we can keep rents in both locations to under $1000 a month with electricity and water, it almost starts to seem possible. And you can trust that if we can find a rental property for only $650 a month a mile or two away from the ocean and then rent an Airbnb for a month at a time and stay in four different cities across Europe for about $30 a day, we’d be right on it.

Olaf Finkbeiner in Frankfurt, Germany

This is kind of extraordinary meeting up with an old friend twice on one trip, but that’s just what we’re doing tonight as we head to Harvey’s to check in with Olaf Finkbeiner and Torsten Kühne. These two leave indelible impressions on Caroline and me if for no other reason than their passion for being present and engaged in life has all of the rage and fire they had 30 years ago when we all met. To be honest, we know very few people who embrace life in quite the same way. Sure, we know successful people, ambitious people, and adventurous ones, too, but it’s rare for us to find two of the more intriguing qualities that are important to us, and those are political and intellectual engagement that borders on fervor. Not only are they actively working and concerned about the social conversation Europe is having, but both are creative forces that have refused to let their idealism take a rest.

To Kuehne in Frankfurt, Germany

After drinks, hanging out, and talking a bit, hunger took over, and the guys suggested a different place to get dinner. We strolled down the street to Eckhaus. If anything makes us miss living in Europe, it is having these times with friends who’ve not betrayed their dreams to become characters that are poor representations of the people we knew when we lived around the corner from Olaf and To. Realistically, we’d probably see each other less if we were living in Frankfurt again, but that doesn’t diminish our fondness for having time to catch up with these two Menschen.

Entering Another Dimension

John and Caroline Wise

I’m at Sky Harbor Airport Terminal 4 as I write this. The flight I’m catching is taking me to Frankfurt, Germany. The selfie above was taken before my Uber driver pulled up to whisk me away. Caroline will follow my path in two weeks. You’ll learn more soon enough.

In and out of line, through security in seconds, and over to my gate when I come upon Cowboy Ciao, and I know what I’m having for dinner: the Stetson Chopped Salad. This salad is famous here in Arizona, but I thought it was gone as the location in Old Town Scottsdale is out of business. Now I’m at the gate and have minutes to go before we start boarding.

Tonight’s flight is about 11 hours non-stop to Frankfurt. I’m missing Caroline already; the separation anxiety is huge.

Condor Airlines to Germany

Thirty minutes out of Phoenix with only ten and a half hours to go. The flight crew said something about the evening meal and then another meal two hours before we land in Frankfurt. Seems like a late dinner and the next meal feels like an intrusion on dinner in Frankfurt. As is usual, I’m kind of pissy about being squeezed in here, though I should try to bring my focus to the incredible luck of being 33,000 feet above sea level where the air temperature eight inches to my left is -58 F. We are flying northeast at over 550 miles per hour, and I have a computer in front of me, a phone with a hundred hours of music on it in my pocket, and we successfully took off.

Words are being hard fought for, but I’m compelled to write as a large part of this journey into Europe earlier than Caroline is for me to exercise my word-smithing skills. Part of the struggle tonight is in part due to the fact that I’m writing at night and I never write at night. When we approach Frankfurt, it will be shortly after 8:00 a.m. Phoenix time, which is normally the hour I sit down to start writing, should I be so inspired. I foresee a problem with this arrangement as, by that time, I’ll likely be out of sorts from the shifted sleeping/night/day cycle that is about to happen.

I find that as I age, I’m dealing with jet lag differently than I did when I was younger. Though I might also suggest that when I was in my 20’s I didn’t much care about mental agility when I was flying over the Atlantic as I was consumed by the reality that I was either falling into Europe or returning to the United States. I worked on the adrenaline of being excited to travel; now, I look forward to the nuances of being in a place and finding appreciation in different ways than my young mind cared to consider.

We are crossing over the southeast corner of Utah and entering Colorado airspace. It’s 10:00 p.m. now so it’s as dark as a cave out there without a moon to illuminate the sky and outline of mountains. I’m guessing that we’ll start to encounter hints of daylight in about 3 to 4 hours. Luckily, we weren’t requested to shut the window coverings before we departed, so maybe we’ll get to experience the flight into the sunrise.

I’m taking a break in anticipation of my second dinner being delivered soon. I’ll offer a rundown of Condor’s premium meal upgrade after I’m done with it.

A mere two hours into the flight, I’m sleepy; of course, last night’s restless sleep, and now, with my stomach full, I have some food-induced coma waiting to happen. To fight the drowsiness, I’m listening to Rammstein, hoping some heavy driving beats and grinding guitars will help push me to stay awake.

My meal was okay, with the appetizer ending up as the best part of the presentation and quality. Just as last year, I had a shrimp and smoked salmon salad, while this time, the entree was a chicken teriyaki that was what it was. Some bread, cheese, and a dessert rounded things out while a KitKat was sent back. Coffee is now in front of me, trying to fight my inclination to drift into a nap.

In between trying to write, eat, and stay awake, I’ve been reading The Soundscape by R. Murray Schaffer. It’s too early in the book for me to offer much of an opinion yet. On the map, we are aiming for Winnipeg, while to our east is Fargo, North Dakota. I’d say more than half the passengers are asleep. The debate if I should try to get an hour’s nap is going on inside of me as I look at the global map in my seat back and see that dawn should start in about two hours. Meanwhile, Mein Herz Brennt, and so do my eyes.

Flying over the Atlantic

Four and a half hours in this jet, and we are still over North America. The dawn arrived an hour ago, and the first rays of the sun are now bouncing off the ice crystals on my window. I don’t know who closed the shades as I was certain I was never really asleep, but whoever reached right by me to close them did so so stealthily that I never stirred. The cramp of trying to sleep has gotten the best of me, and I’m hoping Petite Meller is energetic enough to supply me with a jolt of caffeinated sounds.

Only a bit more than six hours left before we land. That sounds like forever right now. If I could leave the window shade open, I could be hopeful that the daylight would help get my brain thinking daytime thoughts, but the majority of my air companions are sound asleep.

From the book The Soundscape, “Hearing is a way of touching at a distance, and the intimacy of the first sense is fused with sociability whenever people gather to hear something special.” (page 11) This was an aha moment for me as I’d never considered just how effective music is at touching the inside and outside of the body and how at concerts, the movements of the crowd create a swarm of syncopated sensuality and community. How might I one day create music if I knew that my ultimate goal was to reach out and stroke the listener with my sounds?

The eye points outward; the ear draws inward. Is everyone looking and failing to listen? I often am drawn to looking after hearing the absurd where I’d like to recoil. It was pointed out in The Soundscape that the eye has the ability to turn off the visual by closing a flap of skin; the ear has no such mechanism. I recently bought the best earplugs I could find to turn off the outside world as the noise level of banality is becoming overwhelming. What is the negative impact of those who I’m forced to draw inward due to their proximity?

Flying into Germany

As I head into Europe, I go to listen. I go to listen to myself, though, not to listen to others. I’m going for music and instruments that make the sounds I desire to hear. I want to listen to history and listen to the whispers of the prayers that echo out of the past in the cathedrals. I do not wish to listen to the sound of war or death that has plagued the continent but to find myself at peace. The language barrier helps erect a sound fence as my primitive German skills make it easy to blur the sound of voices.

Funny that this is the first time in all of my flying years that I’ve been listening to music nearly non-stop since we departed some six hours ago. The isolation has allowed me to withdraw from the other passengers without the hope of finding some random conversation. I’m not tuning in the coughing, snoring, crying, or rustling of papers, blankets, or the seats when people use them as leverage to push their obesity out of the chair. Everyone moves by in silence; the drink and food carts glide by with bottles releasing their pressure upon opening for others, but not me.

It’s 4:45 in the morning, and the majority of passengers continue to sleep. We are under three and a half hours until we land, where all of these well-rested people will land at 5:00 in the afternoon and will likely not be very tired come 11:00 p.m. I, on the other hand, am exhausted and hope to pass out around 10:00 p.m. central European time.

Our place on the earth is approaching a point over the Atlantic south of Reykjavik, Iceland. It’s much colder out here at -80 F, and we’ve slowed down to 490 miles per hour. While we could have maintained our speed eastward, I’m guessing that arriving early is not an option when gate space is such a limited commodity at this incredibly busy airport. I peek out the window, and I’m momentarily blinded by the broad daylight being reflected off the clouds below us. Inside the plane, it is still the middle of the night. Too bad there’s not a cabin on board for those of us who’d like to transition to the day earlier.

Frankfurt, Germany

From touchdown to customs, fetching my bag, withdrawing some Euros from an ATM to boarding a train to take me to the Frankfurt Bahnhof, where I walked out the front of that massive building and a few blocks east to check into my former house of prostitution now remodeled as a Ramada Hotel; this was all done in less than 90 minutes.

John Wise in Frankfurt Germany

It’s 19:19 as I sit down on a wall at Hauptwache to do what I should have been doing 35 years ago: I’m writing. The punks are long gone, though a few homeless people are nearby as though they never left. It’s a bit cold, and I’m hungry, but I had to stop right here across from Hauptwache Cafe to sit on this particular wall because back when I first came to Frankfurt with the U.S. Army, I wouldn’t dare sit here. The soldiers are gone while, in some way, they were replaced by Chinese tourists.

Black is still the primary fashion choice, and it doesn’t much feel like anyone has stopped smoking, though I’m spotting more vapes than on previous visits. Strange to think that nearly 35 years ago, there was no internet, cell phones, unified Germany, the EU, a common currency, digital cameras, Starbucks, or bike-sharing services. While much has changed, I’m struck that, in many ways, nothing is really different from back then. Let me correct that; diversity is greater today.

Frankfurt, Germany

Crazy is alive and well here, with my stroll over to Konstablerwache not failing to disappoint me. The only difference now is in regards to the number of people talking on phones with Bluetooth devices plugged discretely in their ears, allowing them to seamlessly blend in with those who are simply talking to themselves.

Eating at Ebbelwoi Restaurant in Frankfurt, Germany

From the end of this shopping pedestrian zone, I turned south towards the Main River, where I walked into Sachsenhausen, intent on having some traditional German dinner. Apfelwein-Wirtschaft Fichtekränzi is amazing, but tonight, it is amazingly busy, and impossible to get a table. Next door is Gaststätte Atschel, who won’t be able to seat me this evening, even though I’m just one person. Lucky me, as Ebbelwoi Unser said, they’d squeeze me in. Fifteen minutes later, I’m at a table with eight other diners.

Handkäs mit Musik is a Frankfurt tradition of a cheese that is marinated in vinegar and oil and served topped with onions and caraway seeds. The “joke” of “mit Musik” is that by eating this concoction, you’ll be making music later. While I was eating, an old friend answered yesterday’s question I texted him about restaurants to eat near the main train station; he’s too late on his reply for me to benefit from his answer. He’s surprised when I tell him where I am in Sachsenhausen and we agree to meet after I finish.

My main course was two schnitzel cutlets served with Bratkartoffeln (fried potatoes) and, of course, green sauce. Better known as Frankfurter Grüne Soße, this regional treat has grown in cult status, with festivals now celebrating it; I cannot come to this city without indulging. I hope that I will never grow bored of eating here.

Frankfurt, Germany

The friend who contacted me was Olaf Finkbeiner. He’d asked if I would arrive at our meeting point in Elbestrasse by train or taxi; I told him I would be walking. He thought me crazy, but to me, Frankfurt is a tiny place easily walkable. A sunset walk along the Main was far more interesting on my first evening here than getting on a subway. Along the way, Olaf let me know that Plank Bar was closed; he’d forgotten it was Sunday night.

Olaf and John Wise in Frankfurt, Germany

We walked back towards the Hauptbahnhof and went to O’Reilly’s Irish Pub, which might not have been the best place to meet, but it was open. Crowded and loud were the negatives; meeting with Olaf after not seeing him for the past five years made up for any inconvenience. Talking about technology and politics for the next couple of hours went by incredibly quickly before I cajoled this guy into stopping for a selfie to prove to Caroline that Olaf and I had indeed met. We agreed to get together once again after Caroline arrives, and with that, I dragged my jetlagged and fatiguing self back to my former whore house, where once again, I was paying for the opportunity to spend some time in one of these tiny rooms.