The Knezetic Family

My Aunt Jean Knezetic visiting family in Santa Barbara, California

This is my aunt Jean Knezetic, whom I have not seen in almost 24 years. She and her daughter (my cousin) Nancy, whom I had met last about that same time, too, came to Santa Barbara to help celebrate the 60th anniversary of my uncle Woody and Aunt Ann. Aunt Jean was married to my aunt Ann’s older brother Frank, who passed away at age 80 just five years ago. Nancy also brought her two wonderful kids, Theresa, aged 16, and Daniel, aged 7, for the festivities.

Nancy Knezetic visiting family in Santa Barbara, California

My cousin Nancy Knezetic was my co-conspirator in planning and surprising my aunt and uncle on their anniversary. I was surprised, too. After not having a word of communication with my cousin in 24 years, I re-met a family member who has grown up to have two great children, a sense of adventure, and a caring for a family not often seen anymore. I can only imagine her husband Sam is as great a guy as reflected in her happiness and the kids’ wellbeing. Unfortunately, we didn’t have the opportunity to meet him on this visit as work stood in the way, but we look forward to visiting them in their California desert home soon.

Jean Knezetic, Nancy Knezetic, and John Wise in Santa Barbara, California

I think I neglected to know my family for a long time, too long. Such is the damage a parent can cause when the brutality that emerges from their own upbringing leaves a lot of harm in its wake. I missed so much during the years I needed to keep my distance while trying to find my own happiness. Now, as I reflect on these moments when I’m so much older in 2023, I can only cherish what I finally got and smile at those I never really knew as an adult.

Great Aunt Ann Burns (née Knezetic)

Great-aunt Ann Burns of Goleta, California

My great aunt, Ann Burns (née Knezetic), was not an easy woman to photograph and was the embodiment of the phrase, “Get outta here you’s guys with your pictures.” She liked having her picture taken as much as my uncle liked others paying the bill at a restaurant. Still, we need memories of our families that will outlive them, and for me, my aunt will forever be the woman who couldn’t pass up a bargain at the store, kept things for way too long, got her hair done the same way for decades, and never once did I see her wearing closed toe shoes. More than all of that, she was a tough woman who never quit.

Wet grass at local park in Goleta, California

This post has been modified in 2023 due to sloppiness in my blogging habits back when I started this thing; as I said at the beginning of this series of days, I’m now rectifying my mistakes. So why am I including wet grass in this post? It’s because I’ve got nothing else, and I like the way the water drops sit on the leaves here at the park we were visiting.

Rosie the Dalmatian looks intently at my great aunt Ann Burns

A part of the routine of visiting my family in Santa Barbara is going to the local park to walk the dog. On any given day, a number of local dogs make their appearance, stopping by for a rub and a scratch from my aunt and uncle, who are quite accommodating. This Dalmatian above is Rosie. I don’t see her often, but on occasion, this gentle, easy-going dog slowly makes her way over for a moment of attention. Today, her biggest interest was getting up close and personal with my great-aunt.

Great Uncle Woody Burns

Great Uncle Woody Burns of Goleta, California

This is my great uncle Woody Burns, my hero and one of my greatest mentors. This man landed on Omaha Beach during World War II and marched across France to Germany, then back to Belgium to participate in the Battle of the Bulge and lived to share his story. Over time, we learned of him being hit by a train in Buffalo, New York, when he was eight years old. While in Europe at war, a grenade went off in his foxhole. The concussion tossed him just above the surface, where he remembered looking around and realizing this was not a place he wanted to be. When he fell back into the foxhole, the man next to him was dead. He felt that he had cheated death and it wouldn’t be the last time. For me, my uncle was a mix of Humphry Bogart with a side of James Cagney; he had many jobs and could seemingly do anything in my eyes, and this all came out of an 8th-grade education as that’s as far as he went in school. When he bought his home north of Santa Barbara in Goleta, employers had a difficult time attracting people to live so far away from Los Angeles, where the good jobs were, but something attracted him and my aunt to coastal living, and so this is where they’ve been for nearly 40 years.

The Burns in Buffalo

A Google Earth map detail of Buffalo, New York

This Google Earth map detail from Buffalo, New York is of the area where my uncle Woody grew up. Next week I will travel to Santa Barbara to visit my aunt and uncle on their 60th anniversary. I’ll bring my computer to show them the view from space as we zoom down onto the locations where they were married, where my uncle was hit by a train as a little boy, where they lived. I’ll show them Omaha Beach where my uncle landed during World War II before marching off to fight in the Battle of the Bulge making his way to and across the Siegfried Line. As my uncle has never seen this technology at work; I think he will be mighty surprised at what we are doing these days with computers.

Old Hands Part II

Aunt Eleanor's 94 year old hands

These hands took care of my grandfather 84 years ago when he was just a little boy and his sister was only 11 years old. They held my mother when she was a baby and her father was a young man fresh from the military after his service during World War II. In the 1960’s they cradled me, just a young baby 43 years ago. Today my Aunt Eleanor’s hands are a little more wrinkled and maybe not as strong as they had once been, but still, her gentle touch is as sweet as ever.

Hitchhikers

Caroline Wise, Ann Burns, and John Wise in Goleta, California

Everything is now right in the world. Tata (Aunt Ann) got her hair done, and now it was time for breakfast at Cajun Kitchen. We’ll hang out until just after noon, reminiscing about all the stuff we’ve probably reminisced about before, but no matter as it’s always great to see their enthusiasm for sharing the highlights of their lives.

Downtown Los Angeles, California

It’s already mid-afternoon when we pull off the freeway for some quick sightseeing in downtown Los Angeles. While there’s plenty of blight to focus on in this part of the city, that’s what I was doing back when I was growing up before I had access to a car. Today, I’m looking for striking images.

John Wise in Downtown Los Angeles, California

However, I’m also persuaded to take distorted self-portraits.

Downtown Los Angeles, California

And more high rises.

Los Angeles, California

Not to forget the beautiful older and much shorter side of Los Angeles. Enough sightseeing, time to go home.

State Prison Next Exit - Do Not Pick Up Hitchhikers

Passing the Chuckawalla Valley State Prison outside of Blythe, California, on the way back to Arizona, you are warned not to stop for hitchhikers as they just might be escaped convicts.