Monterey, California – Day 1

Caroline Wise and John Wise driving to California

Do those look like the questioning faces of doubt? Well, if you don’t think so, it’s because it’s well hidden. Every time we head up the California coast, we wonder out loud if this will be the time that we find ourselves bored. Yet the moment we are underway, the excitement about our return blossoms.

An ice chest is on the seat behind us, two dozen mix CDs are ready to be our soundtrack, we have the camera, and we are holding hands as we drive over the Arizona desert. This four-day weekend is being noted in recognition of our 10th Anniversary that happened this past Tuesday. Tonight, we’ll be staying in Santa Barbara with our aunt Ann and uncle Woody after our 510-mile drive out.

Jessica on Last Day

Eleanor Burke (formerly Kurchoff) and Jessica Wise in Phoenix, Arizona

With Auntie being 91 years old, there was no denying the fact that no one knows how much longer she’ll be with us, and so with her being the kindest, gentlest person I’ve ever known, it was important for Jessica to spend every moment she could with her.

Karen Goff (formerly Kurchoff) and Jessica Wise in Phoenix, Arizona

With henna from the Garba still on her hands, Jessica’s visit to Arizona was coming to an end. I was about to bring her to the airport for her flight back to Florence, Texas, and a special kind of misery she was desperately trying to escape.

I should explain here my unkind words regarding her situation in Texas. Back in 1999, she called asking to come live with us in Scottsdale; I had to tell her to stick it out and finish her education (as it was) right there where she’d grown up. Moving from the sticks to one of the snootiest uptight communities in America would open her up to bullying ridicule for her Texan drawl, and she’d be disadvantaged by parents who wouldn’t pacify a need to compete with the snobs we were living among. While we don’t like elitism, we also don’t like the depravity that often accompanies poverty and so Caroline and I were still trying to reconcile this dichotomy in our own situation here in America. Now that she’s nearly finished with school, as much as I’d like to invite her to stay, she’s too close to graduating. While her mom is a dear person, her choice of men has been questionable. Such is my mea culpa.

Hindu Reception

Alka and Hitesh at their wedding reception in Phoenix, Arizona

Cake, speeches, performances, and dance are all part of the evening reception and the end of the marriage ceremony.

Jay Patel, Sonal Patel, and Caroline Wise at the wedding reception for Alka and Hitesh in Phoenix, Arizona

As we walked into the reception, we were greeted with the images and inspirational messages I made a couple of months ago that are reminders to Alka and Hitesh of what’s important in the days of their lives going forward. Caroline and I didn’t stay very long this evening as having Jessica in town, we didn’t want to leave her for too long, nor was she alone as she was spending more time with her great grandfather, grandmother, great aunt, and cousin.