Off To Los Angeles – Trip 6

Caroline Wise and John Wise leaving Phoenix, Arizona

Hello Friday, April 1st, 2022. Since our return from Mexico on March 16th, I’ve been busy writing up some seriously lengthy entries that more than a lot of words, were packed with a ton of images. Well, that grueling, though very satisfying, writing exercise and extension of immersion was accomplished just this past Tuesday morning. After working over a few other posts (all of them rants), I’m ready to post a couple, but I’m waiting for Caroline to give them the once over and, if need be, pull me back from the cliff of embarrassment.

But today’s post is not about the past yet; it’s about today, tomorrow, and the day after. We are heading to Los Angeles for the weekend. I’ve already raced through the things that are important to leaving, odds and ends kinds of things regarding cleaning and the sort. Now I’m parked at Starbucks trying to fluff this blog post as travel days are typically light on sharing experiences when the majority of the time is in the car before arriving at the destination looking to check in to our hotel (boring) and then go get something to eat (tired), and so there’s that. Maybe we should mix things up, try to get out even earlier and race over to the ocean for some sunset shots of us walking on the beach.

This brings up the idea that social media only shares the side of us we want seen, the side that reflects a kind of skewed perfection. While that may be mostly true, I don’t think anyone reading this could believe that things weren’t pretty good here on our 6th trip together in the first quarter of the year. And that is after 33 years together! Oh god, then I have to go and think of those young social influencers Tom and Alexis Sharkey (or did I mean Gaby Petito and Brian Laundrie?) who died in a murder/suicide situation, and though I’ve never seen or watched their social media lives, I understood they only portrayed things as perfect.

With my coffee done, the music pummeling me with insipid Broadway show tunes, and, well, nothing much else to say, I’m going to wrap things up here, head home, and pester Caroline to leave even earlier (she’ll not budge as she’s doing that work thing that pays for all this Dolce Vita). My next words will arrive from another state, California.

We are sitting in a Starbucks in Palm Desert, California, after pulling off the I-10 Freeway because we were warned that 30 miles ahead there’s an hour delay due to an accident. With the option of sitting amidst the aggression of people who can’t go anywhere or pulling up a chair for a coffee, some ice water, the always-appreciated toilet, wifi to do exactly what I’m doing at this moment, we’ll opt for this chill moment. The photos below are definitely not Palm Desert.

Desert Center, California

It’s already 6:00 p.m. with about two hours left before reaching our hotel, but before we get to that, we stopped at Desert Center for some roadside relief for Caroline about an hour prior to this stop at Starbucks, which should tell you how urgent that need was because we swore off ever stopping at this exit again, forever and ever kind of swore off. You see, we stopped here a dozen or more years ago when the gas station was still operating and determined that this corner of our travels was likely one of the creepiest we’d yet seen. Well, other than the post office, everything here is toast, including the couple parked in front of the broken pumps just smoking a joint, taking in the ambiance

Desert Center, California

The burger joint is boarded up.

Desert Center, California

The cafe and garage are no longer in business…

Desert Center, California

…though somehow the cafe has avoided being ransacked. As I was looking for info on when the cafe shut down, 2012 was the year I found a brilliant article detailing the auctioning off of much of what belonged to the family that once owned the town. Check it out at Never Quite Lost; it features some terrific photos.

Desert Center, California

What remains of the old market after the roof caved in?

Desert Center, California

This might have been an old-school facility, but we couldn’t be sure, and we weren’t very interested in exploring buildings that might offer us ticks, bed bugs, black widow spiders, collapsing floors, or skeletons.

Desert Center, California

As we were getting ready to drive away, I asked Caroline to look up the history of Desert Center, and that’s when things got even more interesting. Once upon a time, long ago a man by the name of Sidney R. Garfield set up shop in this town to care for injuries happening to the men working on the Colorado River Aqueduct nearby. Nearly bankrupt, he was visited by Henry J. Kaiser, head of Kaiser Steel, one of the companies involved with the Aqueduct project, who convinced Garfield to head with him to the Grand Coulee Dam where instead of treating 5,000 men, he’d be dealing with 50,000 which would be far more financially viable. From this partnership, Kaiser Permanente was born. Now, if you don’t know about this California company and the nine states it services, this will probably mean nothing to you. For us, though, this is as cool as passing through Ft. Thomas, Arizona, where the founder of the Lions Club, Melvin Jones, was born, or learning of Hi Jolly (Hadji Ali) and his Camel Corps in Quartzsite, Arizona.

Desert Center, California

Not sure if people used to stay here or were murdered here. Enough of Desert Center, we return to Starbucks over in Palm Desert.

After maybe 30 minutes, it appeared the heavy traffic on the freeway was clearing up, so we got back on the road. It’ll be 8:00 before we reach our dinner location at El Gallo Giro in Fontana. It’s been years since we’ve been there, and it turns out that it might still be years to come as, at the last minute, we opted to drop in on the Northwoods Inn in Covina we’ve not visited in a few years at least.

Clearman's Northwoods Inn in Covina, California

We arrived at 8:45; they close at 9:30. Seated by 9:10, our order was made in 2 seconds as there was no need to think about what we were going to have. Now, if only our hotel room was upstairs, we wouldn’t have had this 40-minute drive through traffic mayhem to Korea Town. It’s 11:30 as I write this, and I’m as tired as can be, but that’s okay; we are on a much-needed mini-vacation after hanging out in Phoenix for 15 days straight. Don’t pity us, though; we are trying to do the best we can now that we’re so ancient…heck we’re so old that when I wrote that, I had the beat in my head from KLF’s Justified and Ancient with Tammy Wynette, yep, we’re that old.

Is Travel in America Broken?

John is not really dull

Luxury, as we understand it, is all around us, and we can certainly afford our share of travel, but the writing appears to be on the wall that all is not well in America.

We have scheduled a trip north into Utah for the end of May, but I was considering changing that so we could hit New York City once this year and finally find our way into the Metropolitan Museum of Art; we’ve never been. A roundtrip flight non-stop flight from Phoenix to Newark, New Jersey, is coming in at $1000 for the two of us. Hotel rates are cheaper than we’ve seen before but in Manhattan, that is still $1000 for three nights. Add $100 for two days of museum admissions, $500 for restaurants, the cost of Uber to and from airports, and some incidental costs, and we’ll be at $3,000 for three days in NYC.

So I priced out driving to New York, which would require three days there and three days back. The cost of the rental car would be about $550 and gas $800 plus the extra six nights of motels/hotels along the way, adding no less than another $500, not including meals. It adds up to be more expensive than flying.

What if we spread the costs out over a longer time frame, say we make a month of it and see America by car with NYC being a small part of a greater whole? I’ll spare you the details, but that would cost a minimum of $7,000, upwards of $10,000 if I’m realistic.

Running into these brick walls, I opt to look at a return to the Monterey, California, area for a visit back at an old favorite, the Monterey Bay Aquarium. Prices for lodging were good last year; oh, those were pandemic prices, which are now no less than doubled and, in some instances, tripled.

Phoenix, Arizona, to Frankfurt, Germany, and back would cost $796 each, with a train ticket to Paris, France, costing $51 or $102 roundtrip. I found a great rental apartment on Champs-Élysées for five days costing $650. So, ten days between Frankfurt visiting family and Paris goofing off would end up costing maybe a couple of hundred dollars more than three days in New York City. Something is broken.

Freakish Conformity

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All surface, no soul. A fluidity of style pulls masses of the American public into fashion compliance while intellectual activity is passed off as something others do. Education is a technical hurdle on the way to some relatively mindless jobs. When this vacuous gaping maw of American patheticism dropped in to become our standard-bearer is unknown; maybe it’s always been this way. Maybe we are simply normalizing the appearance of our underclass of stupidity by bringing everyone onto the public stage.

No longer is it necessary to have knowledge of reality, politics, the economy, the rest of the world, science, facts, or what true compassion is. Be angry, look cool, be confident in your pajamas, signal to others your narrow social identity, talk about what’s important today in the world of superfluous entertainment/sports/media/hostility because nothing is important aside from a new tattoo, the cool logo on your t-shirt or hat. Plug your earbuds in, and get Door Dash to fetch your coffee, burgers, and spring rolls because this life is all about you and the indulgence you’ve been afforded by being the owner of a gun, cock, twat, big truck, the trendiest bottle of craft gin, or some free-range, organic bullshit that fits your amorphous identity that depends on what brands and issues you’ve been spoonfed lately.

I don’t want to admit defeat, but when I’m among the idle masses, the sound of my grump seems to scream at me to just do that, admit total bitter defeat. Of course, this ugly sensitivity is likely connected to my personalizing of the events of our world and how I want to lay blame upon all those who are never going to give a shit deeply and long enough to help change anything of any meaning. They find salvation in the love of their local sports franchises, their personal relationship to Jesus, their need to fuck and be fucked, to dote on a pet, or ruin another human being in their attempt to raise a child. We are a society of nothing but surface; our souls are long gone.

Then, the media has the audacity to suggest that virtual reality, namely Facebook’s Meta VR project, as noted in the recent article “The metaverse will steal your identity” by David Auerbach, for example, will transform people into “mindless conformity.” Oh really, where does he think people are right now? I look around me, far and wide, and that’s all I see. At least with virtual reality, maybe there’s a chance we can turn away from the public posturing where appearance and behavior attempt to intimate a level of sophistication that is not backed up by intellectual relevance. You may look hip, trendy, or wealthy, but with a 5th-grader mentality, all the bling, muscles, beanies, and accouterments of your vapid state of being will never camouflage the operating system of deep stupidity.

From Mexico to America

Approaching Tuxtla Gutiérrez, Mexico

Nearly 22,000 words and almost 400 photos lay behind me as we move down the road on our way to Tuxtla Gutiérrez.

Approaching Tuxtla Gutiérrez, Mexico

Under those clouds, we’ll return from the Highlands of Chiapas to an airport that will whisk us away from one of the most meaningful experiences I’ll have had during my 50s. There’s no real way to encapsulate the impressions that sparked the lengthy writing about the previous week, nor will the photos offer you a glimpse into my depths that saw what can only be known with a firsthand investigation into something so far away from what would be my normal.

Leaving Tuxtla Gutiérrez, Mexico

We leave the surface of the earth to put distance between us and an unimaginable experience that feels alien and not our own. The privilege of accessing such a tiny corner of our planet is nothing if not astonishing. The incredible fortune of granting ourselves these moments can be difficult to contextualize as to who among us has the tools to decipher things we hardly understand.

Over Mexico

We fly over a world on fire, literally here over the mountains of Mexico and an ocean and continent away in Ukraine, but down in the crevices of nearly forgotten lands and people, life sustains itself.

Leaving Mexico City, Mexico

We are already leaving Mexico City for the last leg of our journey home and wondering when we might return.

Leaving Mexico City, Mexico

Until next time, Mexico, bye.

Over Mexico

The radiant rainbow eye of the universe guides our plane home.

Over Mexico

The moon reminds us of the pyramid at the top of the Avenue of the Dead at Teotihuacán and that someday we too will fade from existence like all things do, but until then, we’ll be embracing all that life has to offer and counting our lucky stars.

Last Wandering of San Cristóbal

Caroline Wise and a weaver in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Our last full day in San Cristóbal only had two things on the agenda: a COVID test for those who needed one to return to the United States and dinner this evening with the group. The rest of the day was ours to explore the town. In the courtyard of our hotel, three vendors invited by Norma were on hand: Francesca from Amatenango selling embroidered blouses and huipiles; Gabriela’s friend Jessica brought coffee and pinole, which is made from roasted ground corn mixed with cocoa, agave, cinnamon, chia seeds, vanilla, and other spices, and finally, the third table was filled with pottery and other beautiful artifacts. We picked up another blouse, the last one of this adventure, and a pound of coffee grown in a cloud forest. COVID test and shopping done, we headed into town for a final round of sightseeing.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Iglesia de Mexicanos was the first church that caught our eye in the distance on our attempt to wander the historic area of the city.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

I’ll never see sunflowers in a church the same again, reminders of Zinacantan.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

We are out on the streets for nothing more than greater familiarity with San Cris. After the previous days of profound cultural immersion, it’s nice to have nothing more to do than check out the amazing murals of this city.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

With dinner scheduled for 6:00, we needed to get lunch out of the way in order to have an appetite later.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

We dipped into La Lupe restaurant, hoping that the darker clouds flirting overhead wouldn’t rain on as we took our seats outside, but this musician moved in shortly afterward, showering us with music. Notice his bag? It’s the same kind Caroline bought three of, small, medium, and large, a kind of Matryoshka purse.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

I don’t want to believe that all this street art is from the same person or group, though I have to then wonder if the crazy eyes are just some serendipitous characteristic popular in San Cris or why so many murals feature them.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

I wonder how many people in the U.S. think about the name burrito and recognize that it translates to “small donkey?” Then, as I ponder the Donki Burritos N Bowls I slip down the whole “donkey little donkey,” imagining “big burro little burro” and switching images of the animals and wrapped foodstuff. It starts to become a chicken/egg situation.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Had we never visited a Mayan cemetery, I wouldn’t have had an inkling of an idea what these targets with an empty center were used for.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

The eyes have captured me; I’m seriously enjoying these murals. Then, I finally noticed the tag TERAZ. Thanks to the magic of search engines, entering San Cristóbal Teraz Murals, I’m delivered to the Instagram page of Teraz E.T. The mystery is solved: this is not by chance; it’s the imagination of this person working to entertain us with his psychedelic creations that are seemingly everywhere here in town.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

This is but one head of three painted on the front of this building. Should you want to see the rest, I can highly recommend that you really should visit San Cris.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Iglesia de Nuestra Señora de Guadalupe is the church up another hill, though not to the tune of 23 flights of stairs that were required to scale the heights to Iglesia de San Cristóbalito.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

This is a first for me: an altar featuring neon lighting.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Not wanting to simply turn around and head back through the center of town, we left the hill the church was on via its opposite side. A small road led down the hill and back around to the right, offering us this view of some plots of land reminiscent of an overlook we took in while on Kauai, Hawaii.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Viva Chiapas…a solid sentiment.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

This is obviously not done by Teraz, but the eyes certainly seem inspired by his work.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

There’s no doubt who created this and that I have a soft spot for the style.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Some cosmic, multi-cultural, multi-dimensional mural art going on here. It wasn’t until I got home that I noticed the swastika, but as it’s not turned 45 degrees, I’m going with it as being related to Hinduism, not fascism.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Maybe had we looked for a map that details the murals of San Cris, we’d have found one, but if such a thing doesn’t exist, it should.

Mural in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Oh, this one is all about me. Hear all the evil, see all the evil, and scream about evil. Obviously, there’s more to this mural than just that, as I think the monkey on the left is a Zapatista and the one on the right a follower of Che Guevara, but what is the reference of the one in the middle? [To me, all three depict Zapatistas – Caroline]

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Monkeys are everywhere but don’t confuse the plantains with bananas. This truck, with its loudspeaker blaring into the neighborhood about the availability of plantains, is not something I’ve ever seen in America.

La Antigua – Galería de Arte & Café in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Who could have imagined that our afternoon wandering would bring us into so many monkey-themed moments? Up until the moment we saw the sign for La Antigua – Galería de Arte & Café, we had no idea what street we were on and if we’d been on it before. But this was where we first saw the work of Tex from ArTex Centro Cultural Independiente and the incredible huipiles of Alberto López Gómez of K’uxul Pok.

La Antigua – Galería de Arte & Café in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

This chance re-encounter would be fortuitous as I’d wished that I’d taken more photos in the gallery as maybe we’d be interested in buying a piece after we returned to the States. So, I got busy taking photos of the works I was most interested in and that I’d failed to capture a few days ago.

La Antigua – Galería de Arte & Café in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

I also finally got the nerve to ask about the price of these, knowing that if you have to ask, you probably can’t afford it. Oh, that’s all? Jeez, I think we can afford that. But we don’t have a free centimeter left in our bags; there is NO way we can squeeze even a stamp into those suitcases… “We can ship it to you!”

Buying a piece of art from Tex of ArTex at La Antigua – Galería de Arte & Café in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Caroline and I agree that this is our favorite from the three in contention, and it was taken off the wall as it was about to become ours, proudly held up by Victor. There are other mentions of the Monkey Men in a previous post or two, so I’ll leave that there; plus, I’m trying to keep this entry short as I’ve been writing non-stop for a week now, and I’m ready to move on. As of this writing, the painting hasn’t arrived, but I did receive a shipping notification.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

What is this, John? It’s polished stones of the well-worn sidewalks we’ve been traveling on. Not an outrageously beautiful photo but an important memory.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

There are no amount of photos I can snap off that will leave me with the impression that I’ve saved what I need to feed a memory wanting to hold on to the essence of this place. Then again, I have no idea yet what the essence of San Cris is, which is great as it implies we’ve visited an enigma compared to a city like New Orleans that holds no allure after our encounters that had me feeling I knew enough.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Iglesia de Santa Lucia, completed in 1892, is still being repaired following the massive earthquake of 2017, I’m hoping they repaint the turquoise highlights that used to grace this church.

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

And we just keep walking…

San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

…until we reach the next church, this one is the Iglesia de San Francisco. Back in 1577, there was also a convent here, but it’s now long gone. The current church was built in the 18th century.

Caroline Wise at Cocao Nativa in San Cristóbal de las Casas, Mexico

Our last photo of the day is from Cacao Nativa definitely a happy place. A perfect ending to a perfect trip.

If you are astute, you’ll notice that earlier, I spoke of a farewell dinner this night at 6:00, well that happened but not without some self-inflicted drama that I’m going to share. Caroline will wish I didn’t offer the thoughts I’d written that night, but I can live with my embarrassment as it’s not the worst I’ve done, and I still feel that with a week between then and now, my tension is worth remembering.

Here we are at our farewell dinner that I inexcusably shot in the head after leveling a “fuck you” at one of the other guests. What a mortifying embarrassment that I gave in so easily to their baiting. Eleven others in this group of 12 had already shared their trip observations, and I was last. I might have gotten 60 seconds in before this other person mumbled some unintelligible words under their breath toward me and my comments.

I knew this was coming due to the snipes that had already been offered by this person, and still, I wasn’t prepared for how quickly it arrived. So, what words triggered this? I objected to characterizations of some of the people we were visiting as being dirty in their poverty; I listened acutely to the conversations behind and around me. I followed this up with my dislike for the undercurrent of disparaging the local men. This was from tired, repetitive questions asking where the men were; obviously, they were doing labor as we saw it all the time. Questions of male alcohol abuse, violence, and taking the wages of the women were a near-constant refrain. Not only did we see the men of the community, but it had also been pointed out multiple times that they were out working or had left for the United States to work there and support their families here.

It was then that the mumbled interjection took place. With my untouched dinner still in front of me, my time at this dinner came to an abrupt end when I shamed myself, embarrassed my wife, created the spectacle of the evening, and then I walked out in a huff. Then, here I was standing outside, the sad asshole who couldn’t contain himself playing right into this guest’s wish that I wasn’t there; she won; I took the low road.

A sad stain on an otherwise perfect adventure resonating in my own way with my fellow human beings that are more fully realized than many others I’ve encountered in travels in America and a few on this particular journey. But John, you’ve known this bias against those that our dominant culture considers “other” for nearly 50 years of my conscious mind. These fellow citizens are tools used to keep humans apart. You can’t comment about they and them, trash-strewn environments, and personal hygiene while anonymizing people in hostile categorizations. The people we were meeting are part of us, and we them.

We were gifted a moment to share intimacy in the homes and dreams of people who allowed us in, assuming we were human too, but behind their backs, we are a culturally impoverished bunch of cruel yet privileged troglodytes.

Maybe I can discover some way to meaningfully apologize for what we’ve burdened ourselves with so people surviving in the corners of this corrosive isolation might come to understand our abhorrent ignorance. But that would require we find a fraction of the love I’ve seen in abundance here in the ancestral lands of the Maya.

I’d also pointed out in my 60-second missive that I sensed that the Maya we’d visited were wealthier than the majority of people at the table, who all had an abundance of cash, while the Maya, on the other hand, had a cosmological love that I felt is lacking in our country and is the true measure of riches.

Chiapas Highlands

We were on the Puerto Caté San Cristóbal de Las Casas road, passing through the tiny village of Cruz Quemada, when I spotted this small chapel. Our road trip today is taking us right past Chamula which we visited yesterday, but our destination now is further north in the village of San Andrés Larráinzar, with a population of only 2,364 people. If you look over towards the left, you might notice that we are above the clouds.

After a little bit of rain a couple of days ago, the haze has cleared offering us a great view of the surrounding lands. If life wasn’t difficult enough in rural Mexico, we learned about unsavory characters who desire particular plots of land and frame the current occupants if they refuse to sell in an effort to pressure them to leave. Selling land is not a solution to anything for these indigenous people as what would the seller do after leaving lands their families have tended for decades or longer? So the bullies accuse the man of the house of some crime to entrap them in the legal system for years and pressure the women to sell in order to help their husbands or sons get out of prison. Land ownership is a difficult case to prove when documentation is thin or non-existent and so preying on the vulnerable is a lucrative business that only produces tragic results.

As though living on earnings of $5 to $13 pesos a day wasn’t a difficult enough existence, imagine losing your small plot of land on which you grow squash and potatoes to feed the family and your small decrepit buildings housing a kitchen, sleeping area, and shelter for your chickens were then all gone. There is no state aid for you, no small business administration, no bank loan: you are on your own. It could be argued that the rabbit eats the vegetables, the coyote eats the rabbit, the wolf kills the coyote, the bear devours the wolf, and so we have to recognize that we live in a dog-eat-dog world where there’s always a predator and always someone or something to prey on. But in the US, we have the luxury of living in a country of rules and order where believe it or not, we at least have a modicum of empathy for those on the margin, to some degree anyway.

Mystery surrounds us as I have no ability to learn what mountain range I’m looking at, what the valley is that stretches off to the left, and what the church or chapel is on the top of the hill to our right. Not that I need to know any of that, as I’m appreciative that our guides have a body of knowledge of the surroundings and that they’re sharing these out-of-the-way places with us. We don’t simply move through looking at the sights; we have a purpose, and we are likely going to find delight, treasures, and lifelong memories when we reach the destination in our itinerary.

We’ve reached San Andrés Larráinzar and the first of three families we’ll be spending time with today.

At least for another decade or so, you will not escape the ubiquitous backstrap loom that is everywhere here in the Chiapas Highlands, but after that? Will youngsters be able to avoid the allure of jeans and comfortable t-shirts as they eschew, wearing scratchy wool and suffering from the constant toil of hard work that they are barely compensated for, or will the young abandon the places and traditions that create the delightful reasons for our visit?

And now the treasures of untold wealth. In the United States, I buy the most non-descript, boring short-sleeved shirts of no particular character made from massive sheets of fabric, likely machine-woven in China. That fabric is sent to Bangladesh, where it is cut and assembled before being loaded onto a container ship to be sent to the store I’ll buy it from. Before reaching me, the cost to make that shirt was about $3.50, and then once I visit the store I’ll buy it from, the charge will be about $60, not due to shipping but because that’s the way capitalism works.

This is a close-up view of the dress that is pictured left of center in the photo above this one. It is not cheap at $18,000 pesos or $900 U.S., but it’s a handmade masterpiece of incredible complexity. In my estimation, the person who wove this required no less than 500 hours of work, meaning they are valuing their work, materials, and creativity at only $1.80 per hour. I’m writing this while back home in Phoenix, Arizona, and have to scratch my head asking if we’d missed an opportunity to own this work of art if even for a short while.

Well, this is peculiar; a man is at home. But it’s also an incredibly fortunate moment too. You see, there’s a pretty strong division of responsibility in households down here where men tend to the most physically demanding labor (usually outside the home) while women care for children, households, clothing, and some minor farming. Both sides contribute to the financial well-being of the family or at least strive to. Being on hand to witness for himself the respect and awe that arrives with us visitors armed with fists of cash must have the effect of convincing him of the value the women of his family are bringing not just to their own economic security but also how this impacts their small community.

The huipiles are seriously a canvas as the Maya are capable of dropping big art into their textiles.

Hello, little girl; where will your dreams take you?

Hello grandma, have your dreams brought you at least a little something from the hopes you had for your family?

What started out as just trying on a blusa led to one of the ladies bringing over a skirt for Caroline to try and then the belt. We left with everything but the belt. After verifying that wearing a belt Caroline picked up in Tenejapa last Thursday would be okay to pair with this ensemble, we asked the price of the pieces and gladly paid for them. While there’s a good dose of guilt in paying so little, we also know that collectively, we are helping sustain this family with our enthusiasm and generosity.

Do you see rebellion against fulfilling the role of caring for her little brother while the older women contend with those of us who might leave enough of our money to care for this family for the next year or beyond? This young girl, who I guess is maybe 11 years old, wears the rebozo that supports the young guy and ensures he’s close and loved while she meets her responsibilities. The baby boy has no reason to squirm or flail about while he’s held securely by someone so familiar. This is not a moment out of the ordinary where the players are unaccustomed to this routine, this is just a part of their lives.

I don’t have any idea what this lady will do with this weaving when it’s finished but I’d love to be around when it’s cut off the loom and is transformed into its next form. Its design can be seen ten photos above on its backstrap loom that she’s working on here in this photo.

Our visit is nearly over, but first, a group photo was in order.

What a beautiful day to be out in the highlands of Chiapas.

The whole time we’ve been in the San Cristóbal de Las Casas region of Chiapas and these surrounding areas, we’ve been in Zapatista country.

Zapatista mural on a school because indigenous rights are still being trampled by the dominant Mexican culture. While there’s been some progress for the people of the highlands, they are still the poorest and generally most undereducated people in Mexico. This primary school on the side of the road is in Oventic Village.

There’s a lot of information about the Zapatista movement out on the internet and in books, so this isn’t something I’m going to spend any more time on, but if you are interested, just search for Zapatista, and you’ll find a ton about it.

Our next stop is out here in the countryside.

The best I can do is guess what’s going on here, but my estimation is that part of her livelihood is derived from selling bread.

I’m pretty certain we are now in Tres Puentes, which is still a part of San Andrés Larráinzar, but this landscape is quite confusing to me. We are visiting the Jolob Home Decor weaving factory specializing in household textiles.

This is the one time we will see men weaving, though I think there’s a technical differentiation in that they do not operate backstrap looms but engage in the physical labor of operating a standing pedal loom where they must step on the treadles all day in order to complete their work.

It seems that the factory does short-run custom designs for companies around Mexico but also for international clients when they can snag a deal.

While I’m often looking at dressed looms at home, I never tire of seeing the multi-colored warps that are destined to become all manner of textiles.

This is a bobbin winder for winding weft thread on bobbins, which end up in the weaving shuttles. The contraption on the right is a swift. It holds the threads that are wound on the bobbins.

Here’s a two-shaft pedal loom working on a simple color scheme you might be able to make out under the white heddles, and then behind those on the right of the photo is the small space one of the men would stand all day to operate the loom.

Small consolation that at least these guys are working in fresh air up in the mountains as in the case of this setup, his back is to the window.

It could be a future towel, placemat, tablecloth, or something I’m failing to guess.

The boy is learning the ropes of helping the men in the factory. Should you believe this youngster would be better served by being in school, keep in mind that it costs a family money out of pocket every month to have their children attend a school to receive a formal education. Add to that, there must be a school nearby which often there is not one. So, the cycle of grinding poverty goes from one generation to the next, and then Americans wonder why, in another 5 or 6 years, the boy will make the 2,856km (1,800 miles) trek across Mexico to reach the Arizona border where he might earn more than $1 an hour with his near-total lack of education. Yet, he’s considered a threat to the jobs of Americans who’ve received a high school diploma.

No visit anywhere is complete before checking out the wares for sale. Caroline picked up some fabric.

Now I’m fully turned around and unsure of where we’re going exactly but I think it’s back through San Andrés Larráinzar proper.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll probably write it another dozen times this year, but I’m my own worst enemy, thinking I need all these photos to tell the story of where we’ve been with enough images to paint a clear picture of things.

If you build right up close to the street, you’ll have more space behind your house or shop to raise more stuff for sale.

I might have seen the sign into town identifying where we are passing through, or maybe I thought, this is obvious where we are as earlier in the day, we were driving in the other direction. But ten days later, while at home, I think I know that we are in San Andrés Larráinzar, but without Google or Bing Streetview, I wasn’t sure until I found someone else who posted an image of the church on the right at the top of the hill, it’s the Iglesia de Larráinzar. If I zoom into the full-size image I shot, I can see the similarities that verify that we are on the streets of San Andrés Larráinzar.

Are those the yellow arches of McDonald’s I see in the distance?

In rural Mexico, delivery services are not common, but young boys using tumplines to help carry the weight with their heads in addition to their backs appears to be a popular method of moving goods from one location to another. I’d wager that prior to seeing this word, most readers here didn’t know what a tumpline was; well, Caroline found this great article at The Atlantic that discusses them. (Spoiler alert: they have advantages over backpacks.)

Here we are. This is home for the next family we are visiting today, though this has greater significance for me as we are not here just for textiles. This encounter will be far more personal to me.

A year ago, when we first considered joining this textile tour into Chiapas, we were supposed to add on an extra week that was to take us into Oaxaca so that after Caroline had her fill of the fiber arts, I would have the opportunity to indulge myself with culinary treats and maybe some cooking lessons in the state of Mexico famous for their moles. But, we were reluctant to commit to so much time in Mexico as this was our first time really getting into the depths of the country, and Caroline was just then jamming into Duolingo, so she’d have some confidence of being able to communicate with others should we find the need to deal with a situation in Spanish. We chickened out, and now that we’re here and having such a great time, sure, we’d love to have an extra week, but we are without regrets. With the intense immersion with things as they are, we’ll be happy to go home in a couple of days and bask in all of this.

Today is special because I’m being offered, as is the rest of the group, an incredible opportunity to join a bunch of ladies in their kitchen who’ve been toiling on our behalf to make us our mid-day meal. I’m not being given cooking lessons, but I am being honored with a lunch made by the hands and hard work of Mayan women I could have never imagined making food for me.

These are just some of the women who collected the veggies and other ingredients that we would feast on. Someone or maybe more than one person dispatched the chickens this morning who apparently lived good, long lives before finding their way into the pot on our behalf. I point out their long lives as, without a hint of complaint from me, those old chickens were as tough as any mutton I’ve enjoyed on the Navajo reservation over the years. In the US, we slaughter our chickens when they are 47 days old on average, with breasts as big as the entire chicken that has joined our pot; there was no succulent, tender white meat here, but tons of flavor. Some of us just learned what it means to take the chicken’s life after it served a greater purpose.

The lady holding the gourd is going to bring it and its contents to the table in a moment; it holds fresh tortillas. Also on our table are two types of salsa; I prefer the green chili with citrus as opposed to the smoky red chili; there are small bean and cheese quesadillas, though I’m not sure that’s what they are called, and then there are quartered citrus that we are calling orange-limes for now until we get confirmation.

Update: I’ve just been informed the citrus is called – Limón Mandarina.

The hosts do not join our meal; they wait on the sideline, ensuring that their guests have their fill. To my surprise, Norma is asking for seconds before anyone else, followed by me, Caroline, and Gabriela. The chicken soup was nothing short of incredible.

In this dark, smoky, open space dedicated to performing kitchen duties, we sit not only in the shadows but also in the shadow of their Mayan shrine. We, outsiders, have somehow warranted being invited into their hearth, the heart of their home, and are allowed to sample the efforts brought to us in their sharing. Without being able to speak Tzotzil, I can never express my gratitude for their kindness and for making the culinary experience part of this journey complete.

You might ask, where does this rank in my food adventures? Easily in the top five. You see, it’s easy to exchange money in an elegant restaurant in New York, San Francisco, or Frankfurt, but having someone share the work that went into raising the chickens, growing potatoes and squash, and grinding the corn for our tortillas while receiving so little in return for such a gesture is the richest and most personal meal I can ever hope to enjoy. Real work and heart made my lunch, not for profit but for the good of a family and the souls of those invited to join them.

I was lucky to have Norma and the matriarch in the Cocina when Norma went over to thank her. I interrupted them to get this photo, which will stand out as my favorite of our trip organizer for the millions of moments she’s helped facilitate, but especially this one that has allowed me to find nourishment in a Mayan home in so many ways beyond food.

In keeping with the woven textile theme of our visit to Chiapas, this kitchen is made in the wattle and daub style. I’ll explain wattle is a process of building the foundations of walls using wooden sticks that are woven together before daub (mud) is applied. This method of building has been used for at least 6,000 years and is obviously alive and well here in the highlands. As for the kids, they too are made in an old-fashioned manner that pre-dates any of our architectural construction methodologies, wink wink.

After feasting, shopping but first some formal introductions.

Not to be rude but I needed time to digest my experience and consider what I and the others were just offered. So while the rest of the group listened to whatever it was they were listening to, I wandered the grounds, checked out a disused metate growing moss in the weeds, and allowed my imagination the space to find meaning.

Funny thing about serendipity: I was the first in the sales area, and this was the huipil that caught my eye.

It turned out that it was also the one Caroline wanted to purchase. She is sitting next to the weaver who created it. She must be a free spirit in her own way because she was the only one wearing a blouse in the style of Chenalhó, a different municipality. All the other women (and Norma) wore huipiles in the Magdalena style, which is pink and red.

The struggle of the Zapatista movement is never very far away in the indigenous lands of Chiapas and Oaxaca.

Is anyone else picking up on the Chinese blue-and-white ceramic thing?

From my perspective, the drying corn makes for a great decoration, adding authenticity to the idea of rural life. If I’m not mistaken, this drying corn has a purpose beyond the cosmetic and I simply don’t understand the utility.

Is this more corn showing up on the loom?

Maybe you are recognizing that the shirt on the woman to the right resembles the blusas from the first family we met today in San Andres Larráinzar and that everyone else is wearing the pink and red ones like the ladies who cooked and hosted our lunch? We are still in the region around Magdalena Aldama, and most women adhere to the attire that is traditional to their municipality.

This stoic and greatly dignified lady came out of the house and stood on the periphery with her granddaughter snug on her back; never once did she move for a chair or change her expression. I felt that she examined us, not caring a moment for what might be purchased or what world we emerged from; we were simply a ripple in the fabric of reality that darts into the dream and is as quickly gone. Her lesson to the toddler is to hold your own and be patient; everything passes, and nothing needs to be said as we’ll be right here long after they are gone. I’ll gladly admit that this is my projection of a romanticized notion and could as easily be so far off base as to be nothing more than fantasy, but vibes are vibes, and this woman has brought that.

This was a custom-made huipil for our organizer Norma.

I can’t look into those deep, dark pools of this boy’s eyes and not sense his desire to know what universe I look into when I’m not peeking into his small corner of the world. Is it my guilt of extraordinary luxury that wants to see an incredible hunger for knowledge and experience within this little boy? Can curiosity and wishes for comfort really be seen in a face, or am I again projecting what I want to see upon someone?

Then, on the other hand, there is this boy. I assume him to be the brother of the other youngster. He doesn’t have a care yet; he just wants to play.

But this stare is the look of knowing what’s coming. She is to grow up in a man’s world where much of the burden of existence will fall on her shoulders. Obviously, she can’t really know that yet, but this is not the careless, distracted face of a child without challenges. If someone told me that grandma took her on journeys into other realms to commune with the jaguar, I wouldn’t doubt that she’s gathering a sense of reality I’m too fragile to understand. Again, this is all over-romanticized nonsense from my own biases that have elevated the Maya people into something beyond the circumstances of someone who simply needs a warm bed, a hot meal, and a chance of a promising future where education and opportunity will be part of her life.

Lucía Sántiz Hernández is featured in a giant volume titled Grandes Maestros del Arte Popular de Iberoamérica – Vol 3, but I cannot find it available anywhere. Lucía is the woman above wearing the red and white blusa.

Here on International Support Your Local Weaver Day 2022, Caroline has settled on this huipil.

As everyone else finishes their shopping, I’m out staring at the clouds, trying to find something that differentiates the skies of Chiapas from the skies I look at every day up north. I want to see a difference, but I’m coming up empty-eyed.

Ten feet below, there wasn’t a hint of cell/internet signal, but up on the roof, the connection to the electronic gods of commerce was smiling down on the humans trying to pull money from some invisible place in a faraway land and with a magic handshake place money in the account of people who have already grown to trust the world of bits and bytes as much as they do of atoms and molecules.