Living Vicariously

Storm Clouds

I suppose to live vicariously is better than having never lived at all. In a world that favors the haves over the have-nots, the need to be witness to something “real” fills in for the instinct to participate. One needn’t hunt and kill their next meal; to kill an enemy is only allowed when sanctioned by the state, justice is not administered by the crowd but by the court, we mustn’t build our own home, and there’s no certainty a spouse will be found.

So, we passively watch the life we are not living. We watch the superman take out a gang single-handedly, the underdog is portrayed as overcoming adversity to win the day, and against the odds, the hero gets the girl. Compliment the fantasy on the big screen by encouraging the citizens to take things into their own hands while practicing fighting, driving, collecting treasure, and maneuvering through impossible scenarios so they might win and be heroes themselves. If you love fishing, there’s a tv show for that, hunting big game, a show for that too. Do you suffer from depression, witness someone else’s that’s worse than your own, and maybe you find solace that your life might not be all that bad?

Don’t like where you live? Maybe a war somewhere else will convince you that your existence is pretty good. After all, we can’t all go to the lake, mountain trail, Disneyland, Central Park, Paris, or scuba diving off Key West. But then again, we can’t let the natives become restless because we have no real idea where the boiling-over point of humanity lies. What pacifies the horde so the wealthy are allowed to enjoy the spoils of their war against those in poverty? If only the impoverished could easily be placated to accept their station in life. Just where can the balance be found between self-incarceration and minimal amounts of participation?

I’m going off-track as I came to this page after having watched a couple of dozen clips from Jack Reacher, John Wick, and The Equalizer. Obviously, I’m broken as I want to fail to understand the appeal, or maybe I don’t have a choice but to fail, as the idea of a solo Johnny Badass cleaning house to show the bad guy what it is to suffer for violating the honor of men. This primitive idea that a man’s rage, when employed for the greater honor, will propel our abilities to overcome evil; give me a break. At best, this is pandering to man’s primitive lizard brain; at worst, it drives home the ambiguities of having un-intentional, near, purposeless lives in the age of meaningless social media.

When knowledge exists in the forbidden vacuum occupied by the despised, those intellectuals, nerds, coders, scientists, engineers, professors, creators, and rarely controllers, these are then the class of people able to give context to their experiences which might take them into the corners of the Arctic, the Balkans, glaciated mountain trekking, Amazon river adventures, visits to museums, operas, and other places of sophisticated immersions. On the other hand, the vast void of ignorance holds appeal to those who needn’t lend meaning beyond the visceral, and yet, they travel with resentment that others might take more from their position of privilege while the masses feign indifference or discontent.

This then begs the question for me: where is the messaging about the importance of vast knowledge beyond the absolutely superficial surrounding manufactured drama that accompanies professional sports, television series, the antics of celebrity-based governance, vapid personalities that hawk indulgence, and finding completeness through consumption?

I can easily understand that I sound like the idiot thinking liberation from the yoke of banality can be found in intellectualism, but that would be a misunderstanding as what I mean to insinuate is that authenticity and curiosity are the missing elements that pull us forward in ways that are healthy for society.

Bamboozling

Elon Musk Tweet

Late yesterday, Elon Musk asked on Twitter, “Is TikTok destroying civilization? Some people think so.” Nearly immediately, he answered his own question with, “Or perhaps social media in general.”

Just this past week I stopped following Musk on Twitter, and already I find myself blocking him so I can avoid his form of madness. Back to the opening of this post, the audacity, banality, and sardonic nature of his missives have devolved into trolling, and this coming from the man who claims he wants to improve the human condition. Had his question been phrased, “Is social media exposing the true debased face of a society where mediocrity has been propagated for the past 50 years?” maybe then I could have easier digested his aggression.

Social media is a mirror, and the reflection of cultural trainwrecks is the cream that rises to the top because stale stories and images of success are boring. Why would positive stories be boring to society at large? Because success is normal, it’s routine, so who wants to see the commonplace? The spectacle of the extraordinarily stupid, vulgar, and violent is far more interesting when all around us, people just keep paying bills, go on vacation, find praise at work, and buy cars, clothes, and nice food. Why be interested in the mundane while there are people willing to gulp down the world’s hottest chili pepper, stride atop cranes 1000 feet over the street below, or act out some ridiculous miming of the next viral hit?

We do not want to be average, and social media offers us the avenue to be larger than life even if we don’t recognize that we are dumber than all life that came before us. This makes sense when you think about it: you are validated in your mediocrity from a young age, and now you are celebrating it thinking that the other troglodytes are going to dance with you in your overwhelming stupidity, not recognizing just how akin you are to the proverbial box of rocks.

So my message to Elon Musk is: Get off your high horse! You’ve lost sight of the majority of not only our country but the mass of humanity that isn’t insanely rich, works with the smartest people on earth, and rubs elbows with the most successful and beautiful people who move in rarified circles. Elon, you can easily find yourself on any TV show you choose, snag an interview with any news source on earth, ask for a cameo role in a movie, and get it, but the rest of us are relegated to Twitter accounts with maybe a few hundred followers, Facebook with the tiniest fraction of friends as compared to influencers, or a TikTok account that will never see millions of views. Consider that for the masses, this is their version of playing on the stage where Charli D’Amelio, Rodrigo Contreras, and Elon Musk live, and the idea of erasing these platforms because they are distractions, places where people say things hateful or show themselves committing atrocious violence is missing the point.

The point is that we, as a society, are incredibly primitive, and NOBODY wants to address the question of what individual responsibility to the intellectual process is and what it means to be in the club of humans. We are as free to be as stupid, insipid, banal, and lacking self-awareness as we choose, just like Elon Musk.

Rafi

Rafi of Phoenix, Arizona

Shock greeted my brain while big uncertainty was writ large over this man’s face. It must have been the crazy look in my eyes as I came to an abrupt stop on my way to the ATM at this gas station and stared at him. Without saying a word, I pulled out my phone and frantically searched for something while looking up at him and then back to my phone. He looked worried as my smiles didn’t seem to allay his anxiety that I might be crazy. If you knew the location of this gas station you’d understand the distinct possibility that a man looking at him wild-eyed was indeed insane.

I found what I was looking for and at that point, I told this “stranger” that I knew him. He was certain we hadn’t met before. So, I turned my phone around and showed him a photo of him I had taken 12 years ago. I explained that I had snapped the photo at Indo-Euro Foods where he used to rent videos and surprise overtook his face along with a big smile. That old photo can be seen here, just click somewhere near this.

This is Rafi, originally from Afghanistan. He is now married and has two kids. Just as he was a dozen years ago, this is one of the happiest people I’ve ever had the good fortune to run into. I’ll have to stop in from time to time to say hi.

Where Is A Place?

A place

Today, I’m asking, “Where is a place?” because a place that was once one thing has changed to become something else. There’s the fast and easy answer that says nothing has changed other than the observer, but that’s only part of the story. A crass example might be found in two plots of land found in Oświęcim and another in nearby Brzezinka, both found in Poland. Back during World War I, a migrant worker camp was built in Oświęcim. After that war, Polish soldiers took over the facility. Prior to this, I’d imagine the area was farmland, but I cannot find definitive information to confirm that. Regarding the other location, meaning Brzezinka, it apparently was wide open just before development activities got underway.

Starting in 1940, the army barracks and, subsequently, the large plot of nearby land were being repurposed. Up to this point in history, these places were of no significance at all, but that changed as Oświęcim, infamously known as Auschwitz, and Brzezinka, better known as Birkenau, became two of the most notorious concentration camps. During their years of being operated as extermination camps, approximately 1.1 million people lost their lives there. Following World War II, the camps became memorials.

As memorials, these sites have become solemn grounds that remind humanity of the atrocities people are able to commit against one another. My point is that places start out as ordinary, yet if extraordinary events transpire, they can end up inscribed in cultural memories with significance that transcends the easily forgettable.

I know that this is a heavy-handed example where readers might say that nothing should be compared to such things and that I risk sliding towards the sacrilegious, but in my opinion, places hold memories, and while it is our collective knowledge that imbues a place with such notable attributes, they do exist.

Well, this was a long-winded (I’m well known for such things) way of getting to the main gist of my post, “Where is a place?” I’m currently at a place where I find the memory of what it was to have greater meaning to me than what I perceive the location to have now. I do understand that my own trajectory is constantly moving, but I am not the change I register as I sit here writing, observing, and contemplating. The differences are arriving with others who have started considering this place as one they could consider frequenting. The place is being repurposed.

Similarly, America as a place and an idea are mutable with a plasticity that, while still pliable, could at any time calcify and appear destined to collapse due to a rigidity that steals its flexibility. Back to my ugly references to concentration camps and the prisoners whose lives ended in Oświęcim, Brzezinka, or Treblinka, those who arrived in the four-year period of mass extermination saw their limited time in a camp as the horizon looking at the end of their existence. A killing system had an infinite grasp and could never change in the eyes of those destined to die there. Similarly, in pre-Soviet czarist Russia, an empire ruled for nearly 400 years before Lenin and Stalin brought the Union of Soviet Socialist Republics to be a force of control for almost 70 years before calcification crumbled its bones and wrought change. All systems appear to fail when change is lost to sclerotic stagnation.

Change is the operative word here today. Places change, and we change, but if we fail to transform ourselves and places do not change, we begin to normalize a docility that demands things stay the way they always were. The brilliance of America since its founding has been this endless metamorphosis that allowed us to adapt to the needs of the day, but today, we are seeing a pandering to base natures where those who abhor change want to pass on stability to strong men who offer promises of today being similar to the day, week, month, and years before when a place and your sense in it was known and familiar. This line of thinking negates ideas of change and, if not rooted out, risks dragging people into the inevitable convulsion that must catapult stagnation out of the doldrums.

The effort to break free of the crippling gravity found in the total loss of movement is akin to the rocket lifting a multi-ton payload into the heavens; all hell must break loose. The violence of the sort that tears apart what it is leaving behind is the revolution that upends those who brought malaise and are about to be murdered before their very eyes. War is then the inevitable outcome that must arrive to wash away the fear of change. Are we headed into that war?

I hope we are not moving towards conflagration as I surely do love the place I inhabit in my life at this time and feel loathe to change that, though I do enjoy my inner conflict that remains in a near-constant state of battle.

Our motto for the next decade could read, “Fighting an internal war against complacency for personal freedom.”

Unfolding Nothing

Unfolding Nothing

It’s time for a break, to do the laundry and wash my brain before unfolding the labyrinth of patterns that risk leaving creases in places they don’t belong. I’m entertaining the notion of languishing in a space of mindlessness, just drifting along on an open sea where analytical calm prevails, and thought currents have slowed. I can’t say I’ve been traveling deep within revelatory crevasses or discovered much new about myself as much as I’ve massaged the fabric of familiarity that allows things to fit in evermore comfortable ways hitherto familiar, yet not.

How does one find intentional boredom, which often seems elusive while otherwise showing at inopportune times when wishes for boredom were the furthest things from one’s mind? To sit down at a coffee shop with nothing to do, desiring to find nothing to say, only half considering the reading of a book because the real goal is to sit still and merely observe. But no, that brain abhorring the vacuum I’m trying to cultivate gets to work populating threads and streams with fragments of non-sequiturs and hoped-for mixed metaphors that are best left forgotten.

And then, just like that, the hour dilates due to a glitch in the matrix of someone else’s memory, and I find myself with an additional two empty hours. Striving to keep thoughts of action at bay, I try hard not to stare at possibilities but instead hold steady, rowing into my yearning for nothing. After all, what’s wrong with just sitting here playing word spaghetti with sentences that will challenge my wife to discover if my gobbledygook actually means anything?

You might never know it, but one hundred minutes have passed, and even more than that will have gone by before I was able to place a period at the end of this sentence. Then there will be the elapsed time between then and now when whatever immaterial string of words, falling short of sharing deeper anything-ness, will slowly appear, but to what end? Filler? Consider that my objective is not a Hegelian chore but may as well be characterized as a Sisyphusian uphill rock toss, a kind of coffee shop version of cornhole where the bags/rock are thought fragments culled from a languid mind failing to engage in the profound. And then, just like that, blam, we approach the two-hour mark, and I’ve conquered another paragraph demonstrating my unfolding of nothing.

Considering this last proposition, I suppose I have to admit failure as true success could only have been had if I were still staring at a blank page, or better yet, I’d fixed my gaze on some unfocused point on a horizon where a blur of indistinctness was washing thoughts off the cliff of observation. Where does one find this state of pure being with a truly empty mind?

Not According To Plan

La Posada Hotel in Winslow, Arizona

Up at 4:30 a.m., and by 5:00, we are heading out to the car to drop off a couple of things before boarding our train that’s scheduled to leave at 5:20 this beautiful morning. Before that though, we needed to stop at the front desk here at La Posada Hotel and hand off our room key and check out. In passing, I asked about what time last night’s Amtrak finally pulled in, “It didn’t show up until after 10:30 p.m., and this morning’s train is already going to be over 2.5 hours late.” Oh no, “We’re on that train!”

Rail stop in Winslow, Arizona

We now know why Amtrak is so unpopular. If we could be certain we’d be arriving at our destination in Las Vegas, New Mexico before the restaurants closed, that would be one thing, but then, in consideration of returning to Winslow for our drive home on Sunday, if we were late three hours or more getting back here with another three hours ahead of us to drive home, we might not return to Phoenix before 1:00 a.m.

Talking to the attendant at the hotel’s front desk and to another guest out here trackside, we learned that freight has priority on this route. So, we sit here having a coffee and contemplate our options. This is lamentable as there is no refund for our train tickets, only a voucher can be had. We also don’t know if tonight’s lodging accommodation can be canceled without incurring the full cost. There’s also the idea that if tomorrow’s train is late, we might return to Winslow without any dinner options aside from a frozen burrito at a gas station. We are stuck in a sucky decision that isn’t fun, and we are more accustomed to fun than suck.

La Posada Hotel in Winslow, Arizona

The decision to cancel the train and the hotel seemed to be the best option, though if the hotel in Las Vegas won’t refund us, we could also drive up there today. I called The Plaza Hotel and the young man who answered informed me that in consideration of the train failing us and that it was still so early, they’d refund our money. We also now have an Amtrak voucher of uncertain value but hope we might throw it at a ride this summer between San Diego and San Luis Obispo along the coast of California, though we’ll confirm the frequency of late trains on that route.

About the rest of today, we’ll head over to Flagstaff shortly to visit the arboretum and maybe the museum before going home. While there’s some minor sense of defeat, we shouldn’t really sulk too much, as even a single overnight adventure qualifies as something a whole lot better than sitting around doing a bunch of nothing.

Amtrak pulling in at the La Posada Hotel in Winslow, Arizona

This is the train we won’t be boarding because America doesn’t give a damn about sustainable transportation and capitalizing on its exquisite landscape via rail. As a people, we no longer think about a future as we are distracted by trying to survive the moment while maintaining absolute control and avoiding all things that smack of socialism but contradictorily embracing thoughts of totalitarianism. America smells more and more like a house on fire, but we can’t see the flames through the smoke. If you wonder how I can write something so hyperbolic just because we are skipping out on our first opportunity to ride the Amtrak, you’ve not read my previous few thousand posts to better understand where this is coming from.

Flower at the La Posada Hotel in Winslow, Arizona

But there are options such as stopping to smell the flowers, admire the flowers, and photograph the flowers. Then you get back in the car and accept that the plans have changed because they were never set in stone anyway.

Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

Strike this from the proverbial bucket list: we’ve finally made it out to the Flagstaff Arboretum.

Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

Well, this is interesting as I’ve never seen something like this before 56 tubes holding water that absorb the heat of the day and release it overnight to help regulate a more stable temperature in this Horticulture Center.

Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

Only about 50 acres of the 200 owned by this non-profit are under cultivation due to the obvious: lack of funding or donations. What could be a significant draw for visitors simply isn’t, as they don’t offer craft beer, wood-fired pizza, or big-screen TVs featuring live mixed martial arts of badass people kicking the shit out of each other.

Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

Nope, they have plants, flowers, and trees. And trees don’t fight.

Caroline Wise at the Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

But get this: mature ponderosa pine trees offer the scent of vanilla, or maybe they smell more like butterscotch? Since Caroline learned this on a recent trip, she’s been insisting we stick our noses into the bark to see if we can sniff out the elusive aroma.

Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

And there it is: on a somewhat hot day when the sap is running, we agree that we can both catch the scent of butterscotch; wow!

Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

We will now test this on every ponderosa pine tree we run across to ensure this one wasn’t artificially scented to fool us.

Arboretum in Flagstaff, Arizona

Back at the parking lot, we chowed on the lunch we’d packed for our train journey and called it quits for the weekend. All in all, it was a beautiful, quick out-and-back trip away from the desert and, strangely enough, our last travel until the last day of the month.