60 Years of Marriage

Family get together celebrating 60th wedding anniversary.

Sixty years ago today, my Uncle Woody (left front) married my Aunt Ann (second from the right) at the All Saints Church in Buffalo, New York, on 205 Esser Avenue. To celebrate this special day their friend Boyd joined my Aunt Jean, cousin Nancy, and Nancy’s children Theresa and Daniel, Caroline, and me to wish them the very best.

Ann Burns in Santa Barbara, California

We started out with me making breakfast for everyone, and later on, we grilled Ted’s hotdogs for lunch. Daniel brought a pinata, and for the first time in their combined 150-or-so years, my aunt and uncle tried to break open the candy-stuffed pinata. All of us took a whack and had a great laugh.

Woody Burns and Caroline Wise in Santa Barbara, California

For dinner, we warmed homemade chicken corn chowder – a summertime favorite in Buffalo. On Sunday morning at Saint Raphael’s Church, the pastor offered a blessing and acknowledged the reaffirmation of their vows, a suggestion by Nancy – we were touched.

The Knezetic Family

My Aunt Jean Knezetic visiting family in Santa Barbara, California

This is my aunt Jean Knezetic, whom I have not seen in almost 24 years. She and her daughter (my cousin) Nancy, whom I had met last about that same time, too, came to Santa Barbara to help celebrate the 60th anniversary of my uncle Woody and Aunt Ann. Aunt Jean was married to my aunt Ann’s older brother Frank, who passed away at age 80 just five years ago. Nancy also brought her two wonderful kids, Theresa, aged 16, and Daniel, aged 7, for the festivities.

Nancy Knezetic visiting family in Santa Barbara, California

My cousin Nancy Knezetic was my co-conspirator in planning and surprising my aunt and uncle on their anniversary. I was surprised, too. After not having a word of communication with my cousin in 24 years, I re-met a family member who has grown up to have two great children, a sense of adventure, and a caring for a family not often seen anymore. I can only imagine her husband Sam is as great a guy as reflected in her happiness and the kids’ wellbeing. Unfortunately, we didn’t have the opportunity to meet him on this visit as work stood in the way, but we look forward to visiting them in their California desert home soon.

Jean Knezetic, Nancy Knezetic, and John Wise in Santa Barbara, California

I think I neglected to know my family for a long time, too long. Such is the damage a parent can cause when the brutality that emerges from their own upbringing leaves a lot of harm in its wake. I missed so much during the years I needed to keep my distance while trying to find my own happiness. Now, as I reflect on these moments when I’m so much older in 2023, I can only cherish what I finally got and smile at those I never really knew as an adult.

Great Aunt Ann Burns (née Knezetic)

Great-aunt Ann Burns of Goleta, California

My great aunt, Ann Burns (née Knezetic), was not an easy woman to photograph and was the embodiment of the phrase, “Get outta here you’s guys with your pictures.” She liked having her picture taken as much as my uncle liked others paying the bill at a restaurant. Still, we need memories of our families that will outlive them, and for me, my aunt will forever be the woman who couldn’t pass up a bargain at the store, kept things for way too long, got her hair done the same way for decades, and never once did I see her wearing closed toe shoes. More than all of that, she was a tough woman who never quit.

Wet grass at local park in Goleta, California

This post has been modified in 2023 due to sloppiness in my blogging habits back when I started this thing; as I said at the beginning of this series of days, I’m now rectifying my mistakes. So why am I including wet grass in this post? It’s because I’ve got nothing else, and I like the way the water drops sit on the leaves here at the park we were visiting.

Rosie the Dalmatian looks intently at my great aunt Ann Burns

A part of the routine of visiting my family in Santa Barbara is going to the local park to walk the dog. On any given day, a number of local dogs make their appearance, stopping by for a rub and a scratch from my aunt and uncle, who are quite accommodating. This Dalmatian above is Rosie. I don’t see her often, but on occasion, this gentle, easy-going dog slowly makes her way over for a moment of attention. Today, her biggest interest was getting up close and personal with my great-aunt.

Great Uncle Woody Burns

Great Uncle Woody Burns of Goleta, California

This is my great uncle Woody Burns, my hero and one of my greatest mentors. This man landed on Omaha Beach during World War II and marched across France to Germany, then back to Belgium to participate in the Battle of the Bulge and lived to share his story. Over time, we learned of him being hit by a train in Buffalo, New York, when he was eight years old. While in Europe at war, a grenade went off in his foxhole. The concussion tossed him just above the surface, where he remembered looking around and realizing this was not a place he wanted to be. When he fell back into the foxhole, the man next to him was dead. He felt that he had cheated death and it wouldn’t be the last time. For me, my uncle was a mix of Humphry Bogart with a side of James Cagney; he had many jobs and could seemingly do anything in my eyes, and this all came out of an 8th-grade education as that’s as far as he went in school. When he bought his home north of Santa Barbara in Goleta, employers had a difficult time attracting people to live so far away from Los Angeles, where the good jobs were, but something attracted him and my aunt to coastal living, and so this is where they’ve been for nearly 40 years.

From the Desert to the Sea

Salome Road in Tonopah, Arizona

Sometimes reality shifts, though the phenomena are likely the result of the shenanigans of someone who is performing a sleight of hand. And so it is that in January 2023, the blog post that used to occupy this slot has been updated. You see, we are on our way to California and are passing Salome Road on Interstate 10, but the original post featured someone in the surf who “represented” the idea of us being in California or on our way. Little did I know 17 years ago that accuracy would matter as long as “future-us” had a general idea of what we were doing on that day. Well, it does matter, and so here I am repairing my sloppiness. The text and the photo that were here until now have been moved to the day where they should have appeared, that is, August 6th, 2006.

The Pacific Ocean near Ventura, California

We were on our way to Goleta, just north of Santa Barbara. Goleta is often considered a part of that city, as the University of Santa Barbara is just down the street. This still being summer and us having left Arizona at midday, allowed us to indulge in this beautiful sunset near Ventura when so often we arrived at our family’s place closer to midnight.

Shore Birds

A seagull floating on an air current over the pacific ocean

Oceanside on the Pacific Ocean wouldn’t be the same without the multitude of seabirds flying and scurrying about. Seagulls are usually in abundance, while pelicans, curlews, and whimbrels are rarer sights but not too hard to find. Standing on the coast watching plovers run along the water’s edge, darting back and forth with the incoming and receding ocean, is good for a half-hour of entertainment – I have yet to see one make a misstep and get caught up with the surf.